(Closed) Not a gay couple…but it shouldn’t matter if we are!!!

posted 8 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 32
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5095 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@missvern: Good for you. That sounds like a good way to handle it.

Post # 33
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814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Ugh. I understand why you did what you did, it’d be a weird position to be put in. I probably would have told her where to shove those favors…

Post # 34
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822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

that is horrible.  i know everyone is entitled to their own opinion but i would not be supporting such a business. 

Post # 35
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4371 posts
Honey bee

I would have told her to cancel my order, because I also don’t support “those” kinds of businesses.

Post # 36
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

while it is true that a business owner does have the right to *feel* any way they want, it is generally understood that you don’t express those *feelings* in business. It’s called discrimination-and at its worst it is illegal and at best it is immoral.

Post # 37
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7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@missvern:  i just read all this now and i think even given that its a friend of a friend, i would cancel the orders. to handle it maturely as you want, i would perhaps still have that talk and inform her that i will be writing a review so there are no surprises.

Post # 38
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Blushing bee

I personally would have cancelled the order and told them exactly why. When Prop 8 was going on here in California and the list of people and businesses came out that had donated to defeat gay marriage came out it made me very mindful of where my money goes. There is a very popular family ice cream shop on that list, and while I love supporting a family business I refuse to ever step foot in that place. My straight friends and there families have all supported me in this. I’m sure it hasn’t made any kind of differance to this place given they usually have a line out the door but it makes me feel better.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

I agree with PP that you should have canceled the order. I’m actually a bit insulted that you are posting in this section about how angry you are but still supporting her business. It doesn’t actually affect you. But thanks for reminding me that I get discrimintated against.

I’m interested to see what she says after your discussion, but she’s already got your money, so she’ll probably just talk about the bible, “morality” and her personal opinion. I do hope your discussion with her or negative reviews change her mind about her business practices/professionalism, but I doubt it will do much. I wouldn’t tell your BMs about it.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@bananejaune:  Exactly. 

 

Edit:  Just read your latest post… it makes a bit more sense now that you’ve explained her age.  It’s going to take time for outdated “notions” of right and wrong to be replaced with understanding and acceptance.  I think you have an opportunity to make a difference and will need tact and patience to get through to this woman, if you are able.  I have a close family member that sounds like what I’m imagining this lady to be, and she is as stubborn and narrow-minded as they come, but she is also generous and loving.  She just doesn’t get it.  Try to plant a seed, instead of going off on her… you might be able to make a difference.  I’d still cancel my order.

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have a female name, and Fiance has a female type name (but goes by a male nickname, first initial and middle initial) but we decided to go with legal names for our wedding stuff, and if I would have gotten UBBER PISSED and canceled my order and completely trashed the company or informed EVERYONE I know about what they said to me.

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@missvern:  Well, good!  I think it’s more a matter of how long it’s been safe to speak out, rather than how long it’s been a part of life.  More people, regardless of orientation, need to take a clear stand.  I’m so glad you did!

edit: holy typos batman!

Post # 44
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Bee Keeper

@missvern: Thanks much for doing that.

Post # 45
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@missvern: Good for you for taking it up with her again and deciding to go with a different company. I would have done the same thing.

I also understand elopings point of view, as to letting each person have their own opinions. Still, if their opinion so fundamentally goes against what I truly believe in, I’d have no problem cancelling my order. They can have their outdated opinion, but not my money. 

Good for you, girl!

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