(Closed) Not A "Giddy" Bride. Normal?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Haha im glad im not the only person who didnt cry when he proposed..and by propose i mean he bought the diamond separatly and i picked out the setting and he brought it home when it was done which i was fine with…we have a kid it was a long time coming. its lame that i have to make up a fancy story for everyone Undecided but we are both so excited to get married! we arent all that gushy and as for fb i changed my status and that was it. i always feel critisized by my dad and some friends who are like “you guys just dont show affection” or “why doesnt he call you on his way home”.<—that makes me laugh! my dad calls his wife and talks to her until he gets home…hello youre going to see me in 15 mins save it for when you get here. anyways we are comfortable and know we love each other so everyone else can just kiss our butts.

Post # 18
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1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

As we get down to just a few weeks to our wedding, I feel more giddy around HIM. But with other people? Pfft. I think I’ve posted about our wedding 3 times on Facebook over the last 9 months, and one of those was announcing the engagement (as in, just changing statuses). The best part was when Future Sister-In-Law, after having her “everyone look I’m getting married!” moments for a year, criticized me for changing my status the day the engagement happened. *Eye roll* That was before she steamrolled it with her demands about when we have the wedding, of course.

The fact is – I always hated the people who had to brag about their relationships so frequently on Facebook. It comes off as insecure, needy, clingy and insincere. And then it comes off as annoying or eye-rolling to everyone else, as though we’re all supposed to feel obligated into being as excited as whoever is getting married. I see the endless “we’re getting engaged/married!” posts as similar to someone shouting “I got a raise! I make so much more money now!”

It’s good news, but nobody likes a braggart. Hit on it a few times, when necessary, and leave it be. Everyone knows you’re getting married, you love your fiance, the ring was so gorgeous, blahblahblah.

I never did post a picture of my engagement ring, let alone take a picture of it.

 

Post # 19
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3176 posts
Sugar bee

I am very happy and excited to be getting married but I am not giddy over it. I am sure people think it is strange. We are just not that type of couple. I hate it when people ask how he proposed because they want to hear a long, lavish, romantic story but it just isn’t. It was very us.

Yay for non-giddy brides.

Post # 20
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657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I know exactly what you are saying… I’ve been giddy girl, but it fizzled and there was nothing left. I have the consistent warm feeling of love and commitment and a solid friendship with my Fiance that is amazing . i wouldn’t trade it in for the giddy feeling.

Post # 21
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2093 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yes! In fact, I trust your response more than I trust brides in La La Land. Why? Because this is life!! Life is messy, weird, fun, beautiful, scary, etc…it’s ok not to be giddy about a major life change but all of the above or whatever you are feeling.

If someone is giddy, that is ok, too…but I think it’s great you are grounded in your approach. You sound totally confident in your choices and that is what matters!

 

Our culture teaches us that when people get engaged or married, life stops/changes and it’s all peaches and lollipops. Its ONE day. You still have your whole life.

 

I would be a bit concerned if you blacked out when he asked. Glad you stayed awake for your own engagement. 😉

 

 

Signed,

A Fellow Bride Who Wondered If She Was Normal because She Swung Between Centered and Calm to Grieving (?) but Never Giddy, then Found Out She Was Indeed, Okay.

XXOO

Post # 22
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407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I get what you’re saying, OP. I KNOW Fiance is the right guy for me, but it’s not in a ‘giddy, fanfare’ sort of way. In fact, it’s in the incredibly calm way he makes me feel (I have anxiety issues). He makes me feel like all is right with the world. (Excuse the extreme cheesiness, but it’s true).

Also, I’m not excited for our wedding. I’m actually dreading it. Fiance and I wanted to elope, but were guilt-tripped into having a wedding. /: And it’s been problem after problem, so we can’t wait for it to be over so we can just enjoy our time as a married couple. 🙂

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