Post # 1
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410 posts
Helper bee
Thanks to the devil known as facebook, I found out this morning that one of SOs friends just got engaged. (I’m sure it doesn’t help that I don’t like this (female) friend very much LOL). When I asked SO (via email) if he’d been on facebook yet, he said “no, why?” so I told him. His reply was “so I guess now you’re pissed off, right?” I answered him that I was going to keep my mouth shut and not make him feel guilty, but that I might be eating and/or smoking more than usual for the rest of the day. Of course he brought up the fact that his friend & her fiancée had been dating SEVEN years, as opposed to only (almost) SIX like SO and I. He also mentioned that they got engaged on vacation, to which I replied that I hope he doesn’t have the idea that proposals can only happen when people go away together cuz we have no plans to do that anytime soon!!
I am just so frustrated right now, bees. I have been good for the past few weeks about not bringing up the ring and when the hell is this gonna happen and all that. But I am quickly losing my patience. I gave him ‘till the end of the year, but that just seems so damn far away right now. I really want to scream or punch something or both lol. This just sucks…
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
Hang in there! You are way more patient than me; I hope things work out for you soon. Has he shown any signs of progress since you brought up the topic (I read some of your posts, but couldn’t tell from that)? At least you know the reason he is taking so long!
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
YIKES! SO has got your number BUT good honey! Why not throw him a curveball tonight and after having a bleh start to the week, take him out for some yummy food and cold beer, go see a nerdy movie and hold hands and share popcorn…put all the engagment craziness out of your mind and give your guy a break…I know it’s hard to wait and your right, 6 years is a long time! But you’re over the hump babe, have some fun…your SO will thank you!
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
@stargazer102706: Ugh! First off breath lol. Go get a punching bag?? LOL. I know this sucks. Waiting is such a shittyyy time, but try ( as much as you can) to see the good things. It helped me alot. I started to go nuts ( my SO’s father got engaged after being with this lady for 1 year to the day, I get it hes older but he JUST lost his wife the year before..WTF!!! end rant lol)
Anyway. Then I realized why would my SO want to propose to a crazy cranky pants b*tch haha. I started to show him why he would want to marry me and the things he loves about me. Things have changed soo much in just the last month.
Well I hope I helped at all lol. I know when your waiting nothing any one says helps ( I’m still waiting!) but try to just relax and go out and have a good time. Oh and DELET FACEBOOK! I don’t have one and the only time I found out ‘so and so’ got engaged is when it’s someone super close and they either call me or text me to tell me. WOO lol
Post # 6
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Newbee
I was in the same situation last year. One of my SO and I’s best friends got engaged after knowing the girl for only a year (and she was just out of high school). We never really got off on the right foot because of her previous history with another close male friend of mine. Every time she would talk about the wedding, I would get frustrated because I have been with my SO for 4+ years.
They were married in May and every weekend when we hang out at their house I get this sinking feeling in my stomach because here I am, in college, broke, working my butt off and she is living the dream.
It has taken some time but my SO is finally seeing what I see in her. And even though this situation is really crummy, it has almost strengthened out relationship because I am grateful for everything about him and he has come to appreciate the qualities in me that she does not posess. Hang in there girl! You’ll get to live the dream some time soon!
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
Six years… you have way more patience than me.
Hope something get that man moving towards engagement SOON!
Post # 8
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410 posts
Helper bee
@MariaW: no real signs except for his assurances that he has “a plan” LOL
@Nona99: that might have to wait until later in the week, but not a bad idea
@FutureMrs.browneyes: I wish I had a punchingbag! I actually slammed my fist against my desk when I first found out – luckily I was alone in my section at that moment. And yes, sometimes facebook really seems like more trouble than it’s worth!
@kerilynk: Ugh, I don’t blame you for being frustrated! Hopefully your SO gets his butt in gear right away
@MrsOliveBird: thanks, I hope so too! 😉
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
Good luck – am also in the 30 and over club so I feel you on that, though I’ve not been dating my SO for as long as you. How old is your SO, and do you really believe him when he says he has a plan?
Post # 10
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Helper bee
@MariaW: He is 33, a year younger than me. I do believe he has a plan, I just don’t like not knowing the when part of it. It would be so much easier if he’d just give me a definite month or something, but he doesn’t want to ruin the “surprise.” Ugh, men 😉
Post # 11
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Newbee
Yesterday wasn’t a good waiting day for me too! I felt like a robot at work just doing things until it was time to leave for the day. I felt that I was going to burst into tears anytime and it was taking so much effort to hold back in. To be honest, what kept me going was reading through the waiting boards. I would have lost it if it weren’t for that tiny browswer in my work computer dedicated to weddingbee. I’ve been with my SO for 6 years too (7 in a couple of months) and I know it is easier said than done but hang in there. There are just days that are more difficult to handle than the rest but we always get through them…eventually.