Post # 1
I showed my mum the ring set that I wanted to get, and she just told me that it was not appropriate for a wedding band. It wasn’t “serious” enough, and would get me laughed at by my elders… and that I should compromise on small stuff so that I can hold my ground on bigger stuff. I completely agree on that, but I really thought this ring was perfect and beautiful. Everyone else I’ve shown said it was awesome… She also said I should not do silver (argentium, I told her, and she backed down on that), but SO and I both hate white gold, and everything other than silver is too expensive for something that could so easily be lost or damaged, that I’m not comfortable with spending hundreds of dollars…
This is the ring, which I’m getting custom done in thinner sizes, but I still wanted to put the glow on it, but may not be able to… I don’t think the pattern will look right without it, though.
What do you bees think? Not whether or not you would personally wear it, but for a younger couple who both love glowing things? (we usually go to the raves at conventions together, and spin poi… though he’s much better than I am, he’s performed in several fire shows, and I still hit myself in the back of the head with a 3-beat weave occasionally).
Is my mum right, am I being ridiculous? Or should I go with this cool glowing band, even though it’s unusual? I thought I was sure, but now I’m questioning. I still love the band, but her statement is bothering me. I’m texting my SO right now as well, cause I feel rather sad about this whole thing.
Here’s the design and glow, but I’m having it made by someone else because of sizing:
Post # 3
I’m still waiting on the picture, but your mother really shouldn’t be a concern when it comes to your ring choice.
Post # 4
@Orion: I haven’t seen the picture, but my mom hates the wedding band I chose. I don’t really care if she likes it or not though, she’s not the one that will be wearing it! 🙂 Just get something you love, and don’t worry about what other people think. It’s your ring, not theirs!
Edit: I just saw the ring and I think it’s really pretty. I love the design and love that it glows!
Post # 5
I think it’s pretty cool! And that it looks wedding bandish.
Post # 6
You are obviously passionate about this ring, so despite it not being a ring I would wear, I truly believe you should go for it!
No one else has to wear/ love it but you! Mum can butt out 🙂
Post # 7
Hey that is really cool! Never seen anything like it!!
Post # 8
I think it looks nice! Who cares what your mom thinks? She’s not the one wearing it.
Post # 9
@Orion: I don’t know. As much as it’s very cool, maybe it would be better as a RHR? For wedding bands I’m a big proponent of timeless- not necessarily vintage or classic or a certain style, but a style yoI’ll still like in 30 years when you look back at your wedding pictures. If you think that band fits that description, then go for it!
Post # 10
It’s your wedding band so it should be what you want. People today have all kinds of rings wood, plastic, good old silver or gold and the last thing on there mind should be “wow thats a unserious ring”. It’s a symbol of your love and union so it should be something you want. That being said this symbol is one you carry with you for the rest of your life so you should have a long hard think on if you want that symbol to be this. Do you think in 20 years you will still think is amazing and unique and love it? Only you and your partner really answer that, not your mom
Post # 11
@MrsP0801: That’s what she said, cool as a non-wedding band. But I don’t wear ANY jewlelry, and as much as I agree with wanting to like it in 30 years, I don’t like most “timeless” stuff already, and honestly, if I end up hating it, I’ll just not wear it, right?
I know it’s not up to her, but she is very wise and clever, so if she says something, I have to at least consider her opinion, because she’s right about 80% of the time. But I think this might be a 20% wrong time.
Thank you to everyone who commented. I feel a lot better now.
Post # 12
I say buy it, wear it for 5-10 years, then get a new one if you want to! You’re still married not matter if you get a different wedding band down the line! I really don’t think in the sense of “what will you wear in 50 years”… because if it’s this affordable, who cares? You cna have different ones for different phases in your life.
Post # 13
@Orion: I think it’s the glow in the dark thing to be honest. Do you know that glow in the dark doesn’t last forever? It wears off. Are you sure you want that symbolism? (Not that it’s a huge thing). It also is what makes it look less “serious” like your mom says. But again…it’s YOUR ring!! Just offering your mom’s perspective in a different way.
Have you thought about other Celtic rings?
Post # 14
@MrsP0801: I do know, however, this is a very high quality glow that should last about 20 years, and even the picture where you can’t see the glow looks lovely, in my opinion.
I saw all of those rings… SO says the first one looks like pretzels! I have a /few/ “backups,” but I really did fall in love with this design, so even if I do decide to not ddo the glow, I’ll still be using the pattern, I’d think.
Post # 15
@Orion: well then you sound sure of yourself. Just go for it girl! She’s not the one that’s gonna have to look at it lol
Post # 16
@Orion: p.S. My personal opinion, I really like the design. glow in the dark isn’t my think, but I think it does look lovely