(Closed) NOT a Morning Person!!

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

Relationships are about COMPROMISE!!!!

I am soooo not a morning person either, but I do wait until the last minute too but I’m still up before him and out the door before he gets up. On weekends, he totally lets me sleep and if he needs me up for some reason or wants my company, he’s sly and brings me a cup of coffee on my nightstand and kisses me..then runs and waits 10 minutes. lol

In all seriousness though, you need to talk to him about compromise. What is so important to HIM that makes him feel that you need to be up with him? Was his mom like that? Was she old school, got up and started making everyone breakfast? If so, maybe compromise that you will do that maybe 2 days a week. Have him compromise on something you want.

It’s all about give and take and you need to be able to communicate your wants and needs and be able to compromise on both sides to what is important to each of you. 

Post # 32
7872 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh that is such crap. Maybe because we have two kids and a full nights sleep is a rarity.  On the rare occasion the kids don’t wake us up first, if my husband woke me because he “thought it was time to get up” I would rage so hard he would regret it.

i am an adult- I don’t need to be told when to get up!

Post # 33
1866 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Get up at 5 and do what exactly? Make him breakfast? 

I would be so annoyed and upset. 

Post # 34
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

He wants you to get up earlier for no reason just because he does? How very bizarre.  I have never heard of such a thing. He’s being selfish and irrational. Feel free to show him this thread — I don’t think a single person has agreed with him so far. 

Post # 35
3860 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That is just crazy!!! You are different people with different sleep requirements! My Darling Husband could be fine on 4 hours of sleep and I need 8 hours to function.  I frequently go to bed a lot earlier than him, and he usually leaves for work before I wake up. I can’t fathom why on earth you would wake up 1.5 hour earlier than necessary when you could get more sleep (If you don’t want to). What exactly is his reason? What does he want you to be doing exactly that early????!?

Post # 36
2569 posts
Sugar bee

Danni331:  My Fiance didn’t understand my need for “my sleep” either b/c he doesn’t need to sleep more than 4 hours a night. I need 8-10 hours. He started to accept it after he saw what not sleeping enough did to my system. I basically get run down and sick if I try to keep pace with his schedule. He just couldn’t undertand it I guess till he saw the difference between the tired me and the well rested me. He prefers the well rested me!

I think you should try finding some studies online that support your argument that individuals require varying amounts of sleep, and what is enough for him may not be enough for you to be healthy. If he appreciates science at all, he’ll understand and accept that you are hard wired differently.

Good luck!

Post # 37
328 posts
Helper bee

I love my sleep too. Darling Husband does wake up earlier but he is a total cuddle bug and content to just cuddle with me until I decide to wake up. If the kids get up before we do whomever’s bedside they come to first (it really is a toss up) has to get up/take care of things and let the other sleep. It is an unwritten rule! I think your SO needs to chill and enjoy his ‘me time’.

Post # 38
3072 posts
Sugar bee

Danni331:  Psssh keep on sleeping girl.

Post # 39
1034 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m totally with you on this one. My husband’s days off are during my work week, and vice versa. In addition, I have to be at my job at the same time every day, while my husband is in route sales and starts his days at different times depending on where he has to be. So even on days where we both work, who gets up before who differs. There’s no reason why you should have to get up before it’s necessary. I hate mornings and if it takes 3 or 4 times hitting the snooze button before I get up, so be it! My husband pops right out of bed the first time and always has. Some people like mornings and some don’t. This shouldn’t be a subject for argument. Keep sleeping!! 😉

Post # 40
6436 posts
Bee Keeper

Your husband must not like sleep.  I am more like your husband in that I like my husband to be up, HOWEVER, I do not make him get up 2 hours early.  When our daughter was really little I’d let him sleep in to about 9-10 and then wake him up so I could go for a run and he could spend some time with his daughter before having to go into work.  Before we had her, I’d let him sleep to at least 12 before I’d try to get him up.

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