(Closed) Not a peep until Christmas! Updates?

posted 12 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Mum's the word so far?

    I've been staying strong and haven't said one word about getting engaged!

    I've slipped up once or twice, but am trying!

    This is too hard, I gave up!

    It worked, he proposed!

  • Post # 17
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    oh awesome!! i think it’s in jamaica baby!!! i have been seeing a lot of vintage dinner rings and am in love (but they are costume jewelry-ish) hurry up and pick the ring etc so that he can buy it!

    Post # 18
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Crebre:  p.s.  The piece of paper he pulled out was a Tiffany print-out showing carat sizes from the top down (like how large the top of the stone would be based on the carat weight of the stone)>

    Post # 19
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    @afish: i’d still be grinning like crazy!!! walking around with the permagrin!

    Post # 20
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    @afish- so exciting!!

    I’m not officially in on the challenge but I think I’ve done well throughout. I have never directly said a word to my bf about getting engaged or timeline or anything. We have talked about rings but only generally and he brought it up. Since I found out that he was shopping in August there has been almost no talk. The only things we’ve talked about are budget (kind of: we were talking about someone else’s wedding and I said I thought I could pull off a wedding for 10k and he said that seemed reasonable) and dresses (kind of: i watch “say yes to the dress” with his blessing and sometimes between espn surfing he’ll look up and comment on stuff). But, we have never directly talked about when we’ll get engaged or how or what the wedding will be like really. 

    Post # 21
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    5280 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    @corgi: i need to be like you ladies!! i cannot stop chatting about it or thinking about it, as richard gere said to julia in pretty woman “occupational hazard” LOL!! i have been much better and honestly i’m starting to get the wedding burn out….

    Post # 22
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Corgi: Mr. P and I have been together for just over 3 years . . . I moved in with him at the 2-year mark.  The only conversation I had with him at the time involved me telling him that I loved where our relationship was and I loved being with him, but that I was not going to be his live-in girlfriend forever.  Between then and Friday night, we only talked about getting married a handful of times, and once he expressly told me that he would love to be married to me, but that he felt things had to be done in a certain way.  (He even watched a couple of episodes of SYTTD with me.) 

    I should have known he was up to something though . . . he has been even sweeter and more cuddly than usual (and that’s a pretty tall order!) and has really made extra efforts in other areas. 

    However, I am still nervous about if/when/how it it will happen.  This weekend Mr P knelt down on one knee to tie his shoe in the elevator and it hit me that that is what it would look like . . . and I suddenly felt very nervous/anxious, and got really flushed. 

    Post # 23
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    Helper bee

    @ BW4606….it is never really combative, like yelling or anything like that. He has a very traditional perspective that he will be able to “take care of me” and save up for a nice ring, but he is working in a field where you do not make the big bucks until you have paid your dues and sometimes really struggles to take care of his bills, etc. I have never been one to need to be taken care of and grew up very independent, so I struggle with that concept. The last conversation we had, he said that it is definitely financial and I just need to be patient…(good thing for raises right?)

    Post # 24
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Speechie:  I think men are just hard-wired to want to provide, regardless of how independent and/or finanically independent a woman is. I can absolutely take care of myself, but there are some things that Mr. P insists on doing for me, and yanno what, I let him.  He lets me obssess about folding his t-shirts perfectly and mating all of his socks, and I let him take out the trash and, well, take the lead in general.  I know that may not be everybody’s style, but I think most men love to feel *needed*.

    Post # 25
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    @speechie: i agree with afish… one of the things M loves about me is “I listen” which basically means I respect his opinion and let him be the man of the household. it is really want i always wanted and i love making sure that he is okay and the kids are okay (it makes me feel more of a woman). However, my definition of a woman is completely different than someone else’s version and may not work in every relationship.  with that being said, it’s very irritating to be waiting although it’s really sweet because he’s wanting to make sure that he can completely give you everything he feels you deserve in a ring, you know?

    @afish:LMAO about him bending to tie his shoe!!!

    Post # 26
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @Crebre80, I think it will happen soon b/c he acted wierd at dinner again last night.  We got in a little later so I didn’t get to watch the show with him, plus the Falcons were playing the Bears so we came back and watched some recaps of that before I went home (work night).

    And I think your guy has gotten some kind of plan together imho.  The man wants to do his thing, and knows a ring in blue is what you want!  I agree w/you 100 percent in letting the man just do what he has to do!   

    Post # 27
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    @belle: omg i can almost taste your proposal, i totally see it!  i don’t know if it’s coming soon or not with m, he’s being himself and is very cute as usual… if he does have some type of plan i’m sure the fact that he got laid off last week threw it off. he is going to a new plant today to see when he starts (he already got the new job, he just needs to know when to come in). his birthday is sunday so i’m sad i won’t be able to get him what i really wanted to, but i’ll settle with getting him a nice shirt.  since i said something sparkly and blue he may get me like a ring pop or a cool christmas ornament (which would be cool actually lol!!) i just really want the rice cooker because um yeah i burn rice EVERY TIME i try.

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Generally, I bring it up approx. 6-12 times each day. LOL. But he’s good, we talk wedding plans and he goes right along with it. Although, sometimes I get a tad upset about when it’s going to happen because I’m waiting for it to really start officially planning. When that happens, he calms me down and reminds me it will happen – he is a little shy, took him about 5 months and four aborted attempts to ask my dad for permission. Anyway, I’m going to give it a shot, although I probably won’ last more than a few days 🙂

    Post # 29
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    Worker bee

    5 days.  How hard is it not to tell your best friend about this super-awesome party, where you get to wear an amazing dress, and see the most gorgeous bloke in the world looking his absolute finest, all for you, after which you get to call this wonderful, brilliant guy your husband, and begin the rest of your life together??

    I mean….it should be easy!

    Post # 30
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m having an extremely hard time not saying anything….. I was being a dork and TOTALLY made an inspiration board and I think I’m starting to annoy him. I’m joining you ladies….. not a peep until christmas….

    Post # 31
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    Newbee

    So my boyfriend is officially mad that I keep talking about it. He saw I was looking on this forum and was like that is fine as long as you don’t bug me. Now he’s like I don’t like it when your on those sites when we’re sitting together. Meaning- when he is watching tv or on his computer and I am on my laptop doing my own thing I am not allowed to look at this sites, only when I am alone.WHATEVER. Its so frustrating. We’ve been together for over 6 years, lived together for almost 1.5 year and I moved in with him despite my financial circumstances just to be with him. Two years ago, we went ring shopping and I showed him what I like but I am still waiting. Its hard to keep my mouth shut but I am going to try to do it until Christmas.

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