Post # 32
@flipflop: ick money… he probably wants you to have a lavish soiree because he thinks that you want it and you deserve it and he is afraid he can’t afford to give you what he’d like for you to have so he doesn’t want to discuss it. (am i on point?) you should probably mention that you don’t want to spend a huge amount of money because you have to live after the wedding and you want to be comfortable after the wedding.
Post # 33
I’m already engaged, but my advice? Only talk about engagement if HE brings it up! That way, you’re not annoying him and also not brushing it off as if you don’t want it!
You should create a poll to see if any of you ladies are able to make it until Christmas or get engaged before Christmas. It should be interesting to see your results 🙂
Post # 34
@remi: that’s a good idea (we already have the engagement chicken one) to see if those of us that made it will get engaged in six months (i am pretty sure i won’t) but hey i guess we’ll see. i can promise you that there is no way i’ll be getting engaged anytime soon because of our finances so it’s a relief because it’s like whew okay i’m sure he won’t ask so i can focus on organizing our home!!
Post # 35
Goodness I NEED to do that. For real. I got my blue nile sing sizer in the mail today and it slipped out… “I got the ring sizer in the mail today!” and the boyfriend laughed and said “wow… that was subtle.” He wasn’t mad, but I am ITCHING to go ring shopping! I dont think I could do it, though, because I’m obnoxious.
Post # 36
I’m in! Not a word. Not a peep. Not a single suggestion. Not a dropped hint or raised eyebrow.
…Unless he brings it up. Communication is important, right?
Fingers crossed for a 2009 proposal!
Post # 37
I’m already out! Gosh darn-it…..i guess ill start over.
@KMSull- I got my ring sizer in the mail today tooooo!!! I hid mine in my car though lol
Post # 38
I’M IN TOO!! I already started (but miserably failed) my personal challenge- I told bf I wouldn’t mention getting engaged until he suggested we go looking at rings seriously. It lasted for about a week… so maybe a little hive group effort is just what I need!
Post # 39
i already started with not mentioning it .one week so far, i havent even mentioned anything wedding related or what i would like etc.i figure got enough time for that later on to drive him nuts ..and oh boy do I plan to drive him nuts hahhahaa
Post # 40
@corgi: LMBO!! that’s hilarious… i think i want jewelry for christmas (and another right hand ring) i love jewelry
Post # 41
What an awesome response! For me a little bit of accountability goes a long way, so I’m pumped that we can stick together on this. Hang in there everyone!!
Post # 42
Just FYI, I have done SO good in the last two days! I mean, I know its only been 2 days and I’ve been very very sick (long story involving double ear infections………) but I haven’t said a word about anything. Last night he said something about “At our wedding…. blah blah” It made me so happy!
You girls are so supportive– it’s awesome.
Post # 43
I should reword something. I do know we’re getting engaged. I know it. I am just really having a bad bout with Aunt Flo and that combo’d w/being on call right now makes a fairly nice person rather pissy.
He’s the best. He really is. We’re doing great and he is making MAN strides ahead for us. Man strides are what I call it and my sis and I laugh our butts off at how a man thinks.
For one he’s worried I’ll use up all his hot water (think about Big dealing with Carrie’s closet dilemma from Sex n the city) He’s had an electrician there this week at his home making sure the hot water heater is big enough to handle the addition of ME to his home. Why? I love warm bubble baths and love his jacuzzi. So there ya go. And he is getting his fence made now. Not just the run of the mill fence that the hoa lawn nazi’s approve of, but an upgraded version that the lawn nazis adore! For my dogs. So that’s love and that really shows me where his heart is and that is in us moving on and ahead and under the same roof together.
He also knows I won’t live with him until right before we’re married so the boy’s getting things in gear now.
If he’d just only get the ring then we can GET.THE.VENUE.! That’s what sis and i are so worried about now. Getting venue and saving a date so we can get on with it.
And I gotta admit it. When Miss Scarlett lands, she’ll make one helluva landing. Crebre80, you’re right. She will make a splash. And you’ll be one of the first to know and with pics.
Heck I just gotta figure out how to surprise the hive when it happens. We’ll make it interesting 😉
Post # 44
Corgitales- I might have to try that because he’ll talk about stuff, and then when I get impatient, he’s like “It’ll be soon. Give me time.” Argh! I’m trying to be, because I think how long others are waiting and I haven’t been waiting that long. It’ll be hard to respond to him when he says something though.lol
Post # 45
I should join this group!! I don’t want to be that girl who gets all cranky and mean to Boyfriend or Best Friend, but I’m so ready to settle down and I think he is too. We’ve been talking about getting married, but are just not both in the best financial positions (I’m in grad school, he doesn’t make much yet). Maybe if I consciously don’t bring it up for a while, I’ll forget that I’m “waiting” and just continue to enjoy our relationship!
Post # 46
@crebre – you are exactly on point! lol. I already told him I really don’t want a lavish wedding. He just refuses to believe me. Or HE wants a lavish wedding…as soon as I started planning a low budget event, he goes and makes a comment “No, if we’re going to do it, we’ve gotta do it BIG”