(Closed) Not a piece of cake!

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

It does get easier, because you get used to it, and into a routine. But it doesn’t get easier to be apart from each other, unfortunately. 🙁

Keep yourself busy, and keep in close communication – those are the things that helped us the most!

I actually found that there was a great silver lining to our LDR; I had opportunities to do stuff that I wouldn’t have time for in a ‘normal’ relationship, and I was able to build some really great friendships with single women. One of my closest friends now is actually a widow just a few years older than me – it was great becoming friends with her, because she understood what it is to be in love, and to miss someone, and she gave us some really amazing relationship advice about appreciating the time you have with the person you love that has helped us on more than a few occassions to keep conflict in perspective. But she’s also single, so we were able to hang out and not feel like anyone was a third wheel or whatever.

In a lot of ways, having a period of LDR in our relationship really taught us how to coexist as a couple but still retain our individuality and not be so codependent on each other, which has been a struggle for both of us in the past. Now that we’re together, we both feel totally confident spending time apart from each other (like girls nights out, etc.) and are able to have really great friendships, even with our single friends (which I’ve heard a lot of couples struggle with).

As you find your routine in your relationship, you’ll find ways to keep yourself busy, and you may even find that there are opportunities to do things you love. Just focus on those benefits, and keep communicating with your SO regularly.

Also, having a (mutual) timeline or end point for the distance also REALLY helps, because you know what to expect and can be realistic with yourself.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

Have you browsed the LDR board much? There are a lot of really great threads with encouragement from those who are there or have been there! They may not be current, but there’s still truth to be had 🙂

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