- 6 years ago
This is going to get complicated, but I’ll try to explain this the best way I can because it’s driving me absolutely nuts and I’m worried I’m going to come out of this with no friends :(. And yes I know this is completely ridiculous junior high school drama, but…welcome to law school.
I moved to a new area for law school in August where I knew no one except my SO. I love him to pieces, but friendships have always been important to me too, so I dived right into the social circle and found a group of 4 other law students to hang out with, Arnold, Jimmy, Caroline, and Holly. Caroline and Holly were 3Ls and best friends, Jimmy was Holly’s boyfriend and Arnold was in my class. We all met at trivia one night and were insepreble ever since (my SO hangs out with us a lot too and they all like him).
For about 3 months, things were great and I was happy as a clam. Well, THAT couldn’t last now could it? Arnold and Caroline started casually dating. Holly and I were thrilled because we secretly hoped they would get together, but while Caroline was over the moon about Arnold, he seemed kind of meh about her. Two months after they started dating, Holly broke up with Jimmy (absolutely crushing him, he was crazy about her)…and started sleeping with Arnold behind Caroline’s back. She confided this in me and swore me to secrecy, but I had a really bad feeling about it. Caroline started to get suspcious and confronted Holly about it a few times, but Holly denied it every time (right down to saying “the thought of sleeping with Arnold makes me sick). Arnold really fell for her and ended things with Caroline (never telling her about Holly, he just told her he wasn’t that into her). He then asked me what to do about Holly (of course) and I tried to tell him to let Caroline cool down a bit before he made any decisions about getting more serious with Holly. Of course, no one listens to Dizbee.
Well, Holly and Arnold continue sleeping together and then begin officially dating. Neither Caroline nor Jimmy know for sure if they’re together because BOTH Arnold and Holly keep lying their butts off about it to them, but both C and J confide in me (….yay) that they’re suspcious. I try to stay out of it as much as possible. About a month later, Arnold tells me that he and Holly are ready to bring their relationship out in the open, that he loves her and she loves him and they’re going to telll everyone the truth. I breathe a sigh of relief thinking things will finally get back to normal…nope!
Arnold comes clean to Jimmy and Caroline but Holly….continues to deny everything! Her newest story is that she and Arnold “hooked up a few times” but there’s no relationship, never was and never will be and she thinks he’s fat and gross. Meanwhile, she’s telling Arnold she can see herself marrying him! And now no one knows what to believe and I’m the only one who knows the entire story, so EVERYONE keeps trying to badger me for advice and info. As a result of all this, we’ve all been hanging out less and less together and frankly, they’re all getting on my nerves with their stupid junior high drama. I want to tell them all to stop acting like preschoolers and start telling the truth, but it might just be easier to find a new group of friends…though I don’t really want to do that either. What would y’all do?