(Closed) not again Ms.AXiD!!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

My SO doesn’t sleep next to me.  I have a double bed and he’s a large man and I’m a bed hog, so he has his own room for now.  I get too warm when he sleeps next to me (plus he snores).  However, he gets up at 5:45 a.m. and sometimes makes noise as he leaves for work, I wake up and can’t fall back asleep (even after only 4 hours of sleep).  Plus I don’t sleep as well knowing he isn’t here in our apartment.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have a very hard time falling asleep when Fiance is not next to me. The only times we don’t sleep next to eachother is when one of us is sick….then we take he couch to avoid getting the other one sick.  I’ve got a bad case of bronchitis, so I’ve been on the couch for the past 3 nights and have been sleeping like total crap (stupid cough mostly, but the lack of Fiance next to me sure contributes!). I would not say I get paranoid, per say, just unconfortable. Plus, I’m one of those ‘always cold’ people…so he helps warm up the bed. (:

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I can tell if FH is there. He gets up a lot during the night  to go to the bathroom when hes got for a long time I normally wake up.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I usually go to bed earlier. Sometimes I’ll ‘accuse’ him for not kissing me good-night! He always looks at me as if I’m insane, ‘Not again…?! I kissed you! And you were talking to me!’ 😀 Honestly, I don’t know if he’s sleeping next to me or not!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

haha ssandy, sounds kind of like me!! Occasionally Darling Husband will stay up later than I and he’ll kiss me or snuggle with me or something, and sometimes he’ll say I said something or just made incoherant noises but I have no recollection of it. It kind of creeps me out because any stranger could walk in and do that stuff and I wouldnt notice!

I do have a hard time falling asleep without him though unless I’m already really tired, especially if I’m away from home and he stayed behind. He’s been worked to the bone lately though and passes out before me, so I haven’t had this issue for awhile!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

This happens to me. My husband is occasional night owl–staying up til 4am on a weeknight. He’s learning computer programming now for work and he is the type when he encounters a problem, he does not rest until it is resolved. This has lead to quite a few late nights! I notice I wake up a lot more during the night if he is not with me. So I must be getting a less restful sleep!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I can tell if he’s not there, sometimes though because i have a difficult time sleeping, I will just crash and not notice at all if he gets up because i’m in such a deep sleep, from not sleeping very much lol

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@MmeSilverBullet: Argh! Computer-geek partners are the worst haha. He’s got a totally different brain than I do and for the most part it works great for us. Bedtime…not always. On nights he stays up I usually fall asleep better if I hug or have his pillow closeby. It sounds like I am super clingy to him, I know, but it’s really only when I need to sleep!

Also if I notice he is still up really late, I get stressed FOR him thinking like “god, he’s going to be so tired at work in a few hours! It took me a long time to realize, if he is not stressed about losing the sleep, I shouldn’t be either.

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