(Closed) Not allowed to meet my wedding planner at venue.

posted 6 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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jessc27:  I would bring the planner with me. I would want my planner to hear information directly from the manager. I don’t think the venue can dictate who you choose to accompany you.

I would however make sure that my planner and I did not engage in discussions that wasted the manager’s time. If you need to discuss and make decisions, you can do that after the meeting with the manager, and relay your decisions to her.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

That is strange. Can you bring your wedding planner anyway and just say that she is a friend/mother/aunt/grandma . As you are paying her, I’m betting she would play along. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

How rude! The manager should be happy to have a planner at the venue. That’s an easy way to get another connection. Smh was that anywhere in the contract?? I’d take my planner anyway

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julies1949:  I completely agree w/the second portion of your comment

Post # 5
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Helper bee

That makes no sense.  I had such a great venue, they worked things out (like parking, etc.) with my coordinator per my request, which is to both of their advantages since they are both wedding vendors so why not work together so that you might want to work together again in the future? 

Anyway…I hope you can bring your planner anyway.  Yeah, julies1949 has good advice too.  Just keep it to the point.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I don’t understand planning the venue without the planner.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I agree with pp.  If you’re paying for the planner’s time, invite her to the meeting.  Also, it would be your planner’s job to figure out the logistics of knowing the venue and what she will need to execute your day.  So she might have to initiate a meeting with the venue.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

So the manager called your planner and told her this?  Have you spoken directly to the manager?  If not, I would call her and ask her what she is thinking.  You’re the customer, and it would seem to me that she would want you to be happy.  If this doesn’t make you happy, you need to tell her that and ask her to explain herself.  

I’m wondering if this is the result of a conflict between the manager and planner.  Surely they’ve worked together in the past.  Perhaps there is more to the story of their relationship than you know?

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

That sounds so strange. What if the bride pretty much didn’t want to do/decide anything (say not into planning and just wanted to pay someone else to do EVERYTHING)? And what if you feel like you can’t make decisions on your own (stressed or something) and you need your planner there for support? Are you allowed to bring anyone at all? 

Like someone else said, YOU are the customer. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I would bring her anyway, you are a paying customer, she has no right to dictate who you bring with you. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I would probably just be obnoxious and FaceTime the planner inside the venue, or video the whole thing and send it to her. Your venue owner sounds rediculous, makes no sense.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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Unfathomably:  I would do this!! That makes no sense why you couldn’t bring your planner with you. What difference does it make to the manager!?

On another note… what kind of venue is this? Do you really need the manager to access it?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hate to ask this, but can you deal with someone else besides that manager? I have never heard of anything so asinine. 

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