Post # 1
I’ve been at my job for about 14 months now. In less than 60 days I’ll be taking 12 days off for the wedding and honeymoon 🙂
After that, we’ll be listing the house for sale and moving to another state, about an hour away from my current employer (2 hours with commuting traffic).
A company I’ve been eyeing in the state we are moving to finally has a position I’d like to apply for. The commute would be the same that I currently have, when we move it would be a 20 minute commute. Jumping the gun here, but say I made it through and was offered an interview in the next couple of weeks… When would you disclose the wedding/honeymoon, or when would you take the position…before or after? Is it a lot to ask a place to wait 2 months to hire you?
I always feel guilty leaving an employer, it’s just something I always struggle with. I would feel awful leaving right after returning from 2+ weeks off. I feel guilty (possibly) leaving after just barely a year.
How do you accept changing jobs with not a lot of time under the belt? What about when an opportunity comes at an inopportune time?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t mention it until after you have the offer.
Post # 4
I do not think there is a need to mention about your wedding or honeymoon until you are offered the position. I know a couple of other brides who were applying to different jobs before their wedding and did not disclose about their pending wedding or honeymoon until they got the job. Most of their employers were okay with their plans especially because they were already set in stone prior to applying for the job. I don’t think you will have an issue. At most, you might have to shorten your honeymoon but wait and see.
As for opportunities coming at inopportune times….you have to weigh what is the best option for you. When I came back to my hometown after a stint in DC I went back to my old position. I had applied to another job in my hometown while I was in DC but it took forever to hear back from them. I was in my old position just a month after being offered an offer from the agency I applied for. I spoke about it with my supervisor (we were very good friends) and I told him I felt bad for leaving especially after being for such a short time. He understand how I was feeling and told me not to pass up the opportunity since it was a great one and I didn’t. I’m happy I did take it. I am sure your current employer will understand.
Post # 5
Thank you for the feedback!
It is about weighing the pros and cons, there are so many ‘What Ifs’ Like if the house doesn’t sell as fast as we hope, or we don’t find a place right away, but I feel like with this market, if I am hired where it will be convenient to my new location, to take it.
It will be better to have an hour commute to the new state each day for a while than to move and still be looking for a new job, and commuting two hours each way. I think I just have to put what will be best for me first!
Post # 6
Once you have an offer, then you can ask them about vacation time for your wedding and honeymoon.
Post # 7
@kmarie719: I would wait until you have the offer.
I don’t think asking for time off right away is such a bad thing. If you were planning on getting pregnant right away then that might be a bit of a different story, but 2 weeks off isn’t that bad.
Post # 8
I think it’s very very common to leave after some vacation time. Most people use up all their remaining vacation days when they leave their job, it would be a waste not to. I also don’t think 2 months is that long at all to ask an employer to wait for your transition, I did that when I got my current job. I think you should stay at your current position through your wedding, because you should use up your vacation days if you’re going to be leaving anyway, but still pursue other opportunities if they would be better for your career/quality of life after your move.
Post # 9
@wubewe: But if the new position will give her the vacation time for the honeymoon and wedding right away, why not go ahead and make the switch? Her old job will still have to pay her for all vacation time earned so it isn’t like she is missing out on anything.