Post # 1
So Fiance just got a job offer. Let me start at the beginning… When I met him he was living with family working at a small restaurant making barely over minimum wage. He’s had jobs in between making low money and currently works physically hard making less than 10$ an hour. We live together but finances are always a huge problem for us, I make even less than he does.
So I started filling out the paper work to go back to school to get a law (not lawyer) degree, something I’m really excited about (I start in January). A few days later my fiance comes home ecstatic saying he got a job offer at a real estate company. He only has to go to school for 8 days and he’ll get his real estate license and be able to start selling houses. He was/is so excited and I was thrilled for him.
So my Fiance tells his family, thinking they will all be happy and excited for him. He was beaming when he told them. They were less enthusiastic. Saying “What if you don’t like it” and “the housing market isn’t very good” (which it has been getting much better in the last year in our town) and he says they kind of blew him off about it.
So he’s upset thinking that maybe he can’t do it because his family isn’t excited about it, he lost the excitement really and it’s bumming me out. I’ve gotten a small taste of the unapproval about school but nothing at all similar and heck I’m used to being told “you can’t do it”, it just makes me want to prove the people wrong. But I’m feeling really bad for fi, I tried to cheer him up and he’s not doubting it, he still wants to do it but he’s bummed out now and idk what to do, any advice?
Post # 3
My mom usually does this to me too. No matter what, she will always try to talk you out of it, or tell you why it won’t work, or make you think of alternatives. It drives me nuts, and I have basically stopped sharing many plans with her before they happen.
The worst way to think of this is that they are trying to keep you from changing or moving ahead,p. The best possible way is that they want him to see both sides, to play devil’s advocate so he goes into this with his eyes open. I know it sucks that his excitement is a bit deflated, but hopefully he will try to make a positive change and see it is for the best!
Post # 4
**I have to say that when I read the title of this thread I thought you were going to be ranting about the state of Illinois…and all I could think of was ‘how many threads ranting about Illinois are there?’ Annnnd then I realized what it stood for and had to do a total facepalm.**
Anywho, it always sucks when your support system rains on your parade. I can see that they be scared for him that he may not do as well as he is hoping to, but its a gamble like everything in life. I think the best you can do is stay positive for both of you and let him know that you respect him so much more that he is taking a big leap to help provide a better life for the both of you. I wish him the best of luck! If done well, real estate can make lots of money!!
Post # 5
My Fiance recently sent me an email with a list of all the people who became really successful in their lives and met opposition beforehand. No risk, no reward. It’s a risky business, but he has to do something different if he wants to turn his life around.