Post # 1
I’m going on vacation with my FI’s family. I was so very excited!!!!!!!!!! My FI isn’t a type to stick around with the women on vacation, he will kind of do his own thing anyway. It has never really bothered me, and I just hang out with his family.
But I found out today that his female cousin who is a bit younger than us is coming….she’s pretty nice to me I guess…but I’m a bit bummed. Whenever they get together he just ditches me and goes and hangs out with her. He was already talking about how they were going to go drinking together and “tear up the town” in his words. And I’m just a little sad because I was looking forward to this time together. It’s like, I know he will do his own thing, but now I feel like he will really do his own thing and I’ll barely see him. I worry because she can get a little wild and I wonder what they get into while they’re out and about…..but I mentioned it once and he got extremely defensive. Can anyone give me some words of wisdom, just to make me feel better? It just sucks cause I’m not sure she even likes me. And I feel like he worships the ground she walks on and that I will be ditched all weekend.
Post # 3
@BEWLove: I’d like to add that I don’t really like to drink…so I wouldn’t be much fun if I went with them. Plus I don’t like to invite myself places and they never invite me.
Post # 4
I’m sorry you feel this way! Is there a reason you are not invited along with them when they go out?
Post # 5
I think it’s a bit odd that they don’t invite you to go along when they go out. I think your FI should make more of an attempt to make sure that you’re having a good time, even if it means not always going out “tearing up the town” and maybe doing some things you would like to do on the trip.
I would just be very upset if my DH did that to me! I think you should talk to him about it.
Post # 6
Maybe suggest some activities that you all three could enjoy together? I mean I can see both sides. I like spending time wiht my guys, but I don’t get to see my cousins very often, so I’d be excited to see them as well. It’s hard if you don’t like similar kinds of things and that may be why your fiance enjoys time with his cousin, he gets tondo things that you don’t enjoy. nothing wrong with that. But maybe try to find some stuff you can do together as well!
Post # 7
Thanks guys!!!! I’m hoping I will still have fun the reality is that sometimes that’s just how he/the men in his family can be…….I’ve noticed that on many get-togethers and vacations, the men will get together and go hunting and be gone and the women will do their own thing. Now, granted, his cousin is a girl, but I just don’t think he thinks anything of leaving me behind. He probably just assumes I’m having a great time with my future MIL and SIL. Which I do!!! I’m just going to see how it goes before I get too bummed about it all. And maybe we will all go do something together, who knows???!