Post # 1
So I’ve always been more of a jeans and t-shirt kind of girl. I rarely wear heels or dresses, for prom I had a relatively simple A-line dress, don’t often wear makeup or accesorize, etc etc. I went dress shopping last week and I liked most of the dresses I tried on but the one I ended up liking the most was a lace dress from Alfred Angelo because it was light, didn’t have a huge trian or anything, and it showed off the girls 😉
My question/concern is while I’ve never been much of a girly-girl, I’ve kinda always wanted to be a girly-girl but things have made that difficult for me to pull off (e.g. being full-figured, on a tighter budget, unable to walk in heels without wobbling all over the place, being too lazy to get dolled up :P). SoI don’t know if I should go for a more bridal look with a fuller skirt and longer train, etc even if it’s slightly out of my comfort zone right now so that later I don’t regret not having worn something more grand.
I hope that wasn’t too difficult to understand lol. But long story short if any other brides have/had the same issue or feeling, what did you do? what did you wear? (pics are always welcome!)
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House
I would say try on different styles that you think (or don’t think) you might like. I thought I knew what I wanted – slim fit, simple, sleeves – and while those looked good, I ended up with a corseted, still slim fit, beaded lace, strapless gown. I was blown away by it. So much so I went over budget by about $1200.
Things I thought wouldn’t work didn’t, but I wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t tried!
Post # 4
Thanks, I’ve been pretty open with trying on different dresses so far 🙂 Plus my weddings isn’t going to be super glam or anything, so I also don’t want to pick a dress that looks out of place with my venue (golf and country club, outdoors).
Post # 5
That girl you described, that’s me too!! I totally get you, I had the same concerns as you did; but as soon as I tried on my dress, I fell in love! 🙂 It’s not very girly, but it makes me feel wonderful! Short train, strapless, A-line (I think), ivory and I’ll probably end up wearing a simple short veil. Oh, and some flats!! My suggestion is picking out a dress that makes you feel great, confident and that reflects who you are, you’ll find it, I’m sure! 🙂
Here’s a pic of my dress!
Sorry, I don’t know how to resize it!! 🙁
Post # 6
@nyan-nyan: By the way, I love your username!!
Post # 7
Tea length dresses are not as “fussy” as the floor length gowns. These ones are quite simple yet still elegant.
Post # 8
@nyan-nyan: I’m also not a girly-girl. I grew up on a farm, and now, any time I’m not at work you can almost guarantee I’ll be wearing sneakers and sweats or workout gear (I train martial arts about 18-20 hours per week, so if I’m not at the gym, chances are I’m on my way there or I just got home). I thought I wanted a fancy dress with lots of beading and a train and a fancy back, so I bought that dress (truth be told I bought 2 of them), then we had some venue issues and I realised I don’t want to be wearing a big stupid dress and heels in a garden. I want to be comfortable, and so I sold my dress and ordered a simple lace A-Line dress with cap sleeves and no train. Stay true to what you want, not what you think other people expect!
Post # 9
I’m not super girly girl. I really like wearing dresses and stuff but anything with lots going on (frills, ruffles etc.) doesn’t feel like me and I also found that when I put on dresses with lots of lace it didn’t look right either. I ended up going with the dress below that felt really feminine but not girly.
Post # 10
“Not-as-girly” defintiely describes me. I’m girlier than I was as a teenager but I still don’t really wear skirts or dresses. this is what I’ve ended up with. I love it.
Post # 11
I’m definitely a jeans and t-shirt (more like a mens cut than a fitted women’s cut) sort of girl. I don’t wear makeup and I love chapstick.
Here’s my (IMO, slightly girly) dress:
Post # 12
I let my husband pick out my dress. This is what he chose
This is what I ended up doing to my dress at my reception
Post # 13
@nyan-nyan: As another tee shirt/jeans every day woman, the only advice I can give you is to pick a dress that is comfortable. If you are comfortable in your dress, it will show, and you will worry less about it, and focus more on the amazing feelings of the whole day. I just got married on Saturday, and I have never felt so damn fabulous in my whole life because I could sit, dance, and BREATHE in my dress.
I wear dresses so infrequently that it was included in my brother speech, haha!
I don’t have my wedding shots yet, but here is the first try-on of the dress.
Here’s my dad walking me down the aisle (hope you can see it).
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
@nyan-nyan: im not a girly girl AT ALL!!! will always pick jeans and a hoody over a skirt and blouse. i cant walk in heels and my make up drawer last got opened about 4 years ago 🙂
IMO i have ended up with a girly dress (not what i would have EVER thought i would have picked)
masses of fulle and a nice big train.
keep and open mind and try loads of different styles on – you might suprise yourself with what you fall in love with!
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I went very simple but we’re having a casual beach wedding.
I tried on lots of different dresses but I knew I wanted either a sheath or a mermaid style dress because I didn’t want the poofiness or weight of a ballgown.
Post # 16
I wear jeans, a t-shirt, and a hoodie just about everyday. I asked my boss for a dress code and it boils down to pants, and things you don’t mind getting bleached or stained. I’m 23 and I just decided that I should probably start learning how to do make-up. So yeah I’m darn close to being a tom-boy. I haven’t been doing it conciously, but somehow my wedding choices are leading me to be a mini version of Kate Middleton.
Here’s my dress, it’s quite comfortable. I wanted something with some lace, as lace makes it feel bridal for me, but I didn’t want a lace dress. I’m getting married outside in a park so I plan to cut the train down to something like a sweep train.
I had originally planned to get flats as we’re getting married on grass, but it is almost impossible to find dress flats that aren’t ballet shoes. Ballet shoes simply do not work with the shape of my feet, so I ended up with wedges. I don’t wobble in them at all 🙂