(Closed) Not ashamed of my small ring

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you happily wear a ring this small?
    Yes- I'd be proud : (270 votes)
    65 %
    I guess, if I had too. : (65 votes)
    16 %
    No-absolutely not : (58 votes)
    14 %
    Yes-but I'd be hinting daily on upgrading : (23 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 152
    3277 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010


    I agree. Calling large rings “monstrosities” is very rude. It smacks of sour grapes.


    If you are really happy with your small ring, why do you care if other people would wear it? 

    Your ring is beautiful. I’m sensing some insecurity about the size of your bling. 

    My first engagement ring was very small. I didn’t like it and there were some defects, so we upgraded it to something much bigger. I am very happy with my “monstrous” ring set. Laughing

    Post # 153
    3277 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Full Definition of MONSTROSITY

    a :  a malformation of a plant or animal


    b :  something deviating from the normal :  freak

    :  the quality or state of being monstrous
    a :  an object of great and often frightening size, force, or complexity

    b :  an excessively bad or shocking example

    This is from the Merriam Webster dictionary. To be honest, I can see why some people have taken an issue with the word the OP used. 

    Post # 154
    3277 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010



    Post # 155
    3277 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010


    I agree with this. I wanted a larger ring and I refuse to feel bad about that because I am entitled to my preferences. However, I NEVER look down on any woman who has a smaller diamond than I do. That’s just awful. 

    Post # 156
    3277 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010


    I love love love your ring! Lovely stone and interesting band.

    Post # 157
    1669 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

    @megan331979:  Thank you!

    @PositiveThinking:  Thanks! I think he chose well and have been told that the ring is “very you”. I am not a jewellery person but I adore it and will always cherish it.

    By The Way, totally agree with you in your post 152 -I am not sure OP really meant it as badly as others have taken it. And also post 154: I have never felt badly about my ring or that others have looked down because of the small size. It’s more if you are already feeling badly about it (the  Bee seems to be full of ladies that have rings with centre stones on the much larger size than I am used to) so if someone is not fully comfortable with their smaller stone size then the larger size starts looking like the norm.

    Post # 159
    984 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Mine’s the smallest I’ve actually seen on the bee – although ironically it’s a normal size for where I’m from! It’s only 0.25 carats 🙂

    Post # 160
    293 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    It looks similar to mine but I LOVE mine. I hate giant, blingy stuff and I have small hands, so my ring is more than enough for me. I think your ring is gorgeous.


    Post # 161
    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    From when I made my initial post, this thread has gone downhill. It’s just a back and forth about big rings vs small ring and nit picking about a poor, but I don’t think intentionally malicious , choice of words. Everyone has different rings, everyone loves thier rings and while you may feel the need to defend your ring at every turn, isn’t the reason we are all here to connect with other wedding and love-excited other to talk about our lives and special day like normal adults, not get into pointless arguments? Or rings are a symbol of love. We have found the person we are going to grow old with and that is the most exciting thing ever! 

    Rings are just that. Rings. A symbol of love at best, perhaps a special tie to a family through an heirloom. But it’s still just a ring. People all over the world have much less and we are all lucky to even have what we have. Sometimes a bit of perspective is not a bad idea.

    Post # 162
    2837 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @EmJayHyphenAy:  I have a .5 carat ring.  I absolutely love it- I picked it myself, and I could have chosen a larger one should I have preferred.

    The more I wear it, the more I love it.  I wear my ring all day, all the time.  Personally, I don’t see the point in spending $$$$$$$$$ on something that is supposed to have all these meaning behind it- but then it stays in box half the time because it’s either TOO big to be comfortable all the time, or it needs to stay “safe” since it cost so much, etc……

    I have a lovely dimaond (it’s VVS1, GIA XXX, J color)– it’s super sparkly, it’s bezel set (perfect for me since I use my hands all the time).

    The cool part (I didn’t know this when I picked it out)– since it’s bezel set in white gold, and the metal is shiny, at first glance, it makes it seem like the gold is part of my diamond- therefore that my diamond looks larger.  Especially in lighting that makes my diamond go crazy sparkly.  I don’t care about this part- but after a few sales people who work in jewelry stores mistook my diamond for being closer to a carat when I was shopping for bands– I was ike “hey, I suppose that’s not a bad thing” LOL


    I can honestly say that if I would have gone bigger, I would have been annoyed.  But I like smaller jewelry as a whole!

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