(Closed) Not ashamed of my small ring

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you happily wear a ring this small?
    Yes- I'd be proud : (270 votes)
    65 %
    I guess, if I had too. : (65 votes)
    16 %
    No-absolutely not : (58 votes)
    14 %
    Yes-but I'd be hinting daily on upgrading : (23 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 32
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    2664 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

    @jcent:  

    @LeSpice:  

    @FutureDrAtkins:  

     

    +100000 I’m so glad I didn’t have to take the time to type all those thoughts out. 

    Post # 33
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    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @LeSpice:  That is the coolest thing I have ever heard of ever.

    Post # 34
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    3875 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @BrideToBe14:  Even if they are an “imitation” diamond (which they aren’t) what does that have to do with anything? Just because someone has a .4 ct diamond and another person has a 2.5 ct moissanite doesn’t mean either ring is any less beautiful or special. Your tone implies that you think otherwise or that you look down on anything that is not a diamond (as if it is somehow better) and that’s fine, that is 100% within your right to think so, but many women are opting into alternatives with every intention of having something other than a diamond because they don’t like/want diamonds. 

    An OP don’t be ashamed of your ring! I know it’s hard not to look at other rings sometimes and possibly entertain the idea of something bigger, but your ring is stunning! 

    Post # 36
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    208 posts
    Helper bee

    @EmJayHyphenAy:  I noticed that a lot of the rings on here were huge (whether they are simulants, moissanite, or diamonds) and it made it difficult when ring shopping with my SO.  If you feel ring envy- Just remember to take a look around your home town and you’ll realize that the 2+ carat rings are not that common.  Unless you live in NYC or LA or something.

    Post # 37
    Member
    452 posts
    Helper bee

    No one should make anyone feel bad about their ring, tiny, huge or somewhere in the middle.

    I have yet to see a gemstone (of any kind) that I didn’t like. Settings? Eh.. those are another thing, but never have I seen a rock and thought..hmph. I don’t like that. 

    Ring Love, ladies, Ring Love.

    Post # 38
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    7480 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think your ring is gorgeous! I occasionally get ring envy looking at some of the rings on here too but ultimately I wouldn’t want to change my ring.

    Post # 39
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    1166 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @jcent:  +1

     

    @FutureDrAtkins:  +1

    It turns out that 100% of people who buy diamonds actually thought they were buying moissanites!  The 4.792% of people who bought moissanites thinking it was moissanite actually got diamonds by mistake!!! 99% of people who want moissanites hate them, and 40% of people who buy diamonds hate diamonds!  Actually 100% of weddingbee users hate both moissanites and diamonds, and that doesn’t even touch on the 75% who hate colored stones as well… the other 98% of users (see, I can make up statistics that don’t even make sense!) also hate the color blue and 10% of those people hate zucchini!!!  Speaking of which, it turns out that 22% of users who get their “monstrosity” rings too close to a zucchini during a full moon are immediately teleported to 1844!!! 

    Post # 40
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    8036 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @birchwood29:  I think what she meant was that the OP shouldn’t be discouraged because not everyone is forking out $50,000 plus to have a huge rock. A 2-3 carat moissanite is an affordable option if you want a sparkly clear stone of that size.

    Post # 41
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    1092 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @birchwood29:  I think the OP is implying that they can’t afford/don’t want to pay for a larger stone. BridetoBe seemed to just be pointing out that you can get a large moissanite for much less than a similar sized diamond. So, OP might be thinking that everyone with 2-4 carat rings are spending 25k+, not realizing that there are other options out there for a larger stone at less cost. 

    Post # 42
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    1119 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t even care about diamond size as long as it has good enough specs that I’m not embarrassed to show it off and the setting is my style I’m happy! My ring is a little under 1/2 ct and I adore it. I’ve thought about changing the smaller diamond for a larger moissanite but either way I will love and be happy with my ring bc my husband bought it for me and thought I was worth the money for a silly little ring. It’s okay to see others rings and think wow that’s so beautiful whether it be a diamond or moissanite which I think is irrelevant because theyre both white and sparkley! But I don’t think you should get jealous and look down on your ring your significant other gave you. 

    Post # 44
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    1494 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    @EmJayHyphenAy:  Welcome to the Bee! I hope no one is implying you should be ashamed by your “small ring” (your words, not mine). I think your ring is beautiful! Rock it with pride.

    You will find that, as a whole, the people on this site are polite and willing to help. So when you called larger rings “monstrosities”, that shot off red flags. We try not to say things that might be negative towards others. I know this is your first post and you didn’t mean to offend anyone. Maybe a quick ETA (edit to add) is in order so others can understand your thought process.

    Post # 45
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    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @EmJayHyphenAy:  your ring really doesn’t look that small to me so I found your post surprising! It’s beautiful. 

    Post # 46
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    6674 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    I’ve never understood the need to excuse one’s own ring, all the while putting others down. It just doesn’t do anything positive for anyone.

    FWIW, I don’t think anyone should be ashamed of their engagement ring, regardless of whether it is big or small, a diamond or not, has a stone/s or not, etc. As long as each individual is happy with their ring, that’s all that matters. So if you’re happy, I’m happy. 

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