not been invited to wedding :( only friend left out pls help

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That seems weird, are you sure it didn’t just get lost in the mail?  Even if I didn’t like you, in this situation I would invite you to avoid being a horrible person.

Post # 4
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’ll never know exactly why you weren’t invited. Could be everything from budget to venue capacity and maybe the bride felt closer to the other girls when difficult choices were being made. So even though it hurts, try not to let it get you down or ruin your friendship because there’s a really good chance it comes down to something really insurmountable like a space limit in the venue. 

You absolutely have the right to decline social invitiations with that circle for a little while because most folks would feel awkward and weird being the only uninvited one listening to all the wedding talk. Just decline gracefully stating you have other plans and don’t go into the “I wasn’t invited to the wedding” bit.

As for any chance that an invite got lost in the mail, it’s very difficult to ask the bride directly, so you could just sit tight a bit, as someone will be likely to contact you if they’ve not heard from you before the RSVP cut-off date. Or you could ask one of your mutual friends to bring it up but that requires a LOT of discretion and might put everyone in an unhappy situation.

Post # 6
13 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

when is the wedding if its not saturday coming, call her up and ask her about it, if she simply said your not invited, well when sitting down with the other two girls and they are constantly talking about the wedding ask too be excuse, or in a nice way, let them know  you are not invited too the wedding so please stop talking about it in my presence!!!


Post # 8
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m sorry.  ๐Ÿ™  If you’re positive she didn’t invite you, I’d leave it alone.  Don’t bring it up at all.  If you do, you start to paint a very whiny/needy type of picture that ain’t pretty.

I hope you make some fun plans for yourself on the date of the wedding!  Don’t sit back and sulk, enjoy the day doing something else.  You don’t need this one chick to validate how awesome you are.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That is horrible, she should be ashamed of herself.  Yes, tough decisions have to be made to fit budgets and such, but that’s no excuse for snubbing someone like that.  If there was no space she should have sat down and talked to you about it, said she was at max and just picked two out of a hat and she feels terrible and wishes you could come.

She sounds totally shameless about this, not cool.

Can you ask whoever is getting married not to seat you next to this girl?  

Post # 11
12973 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Are you close enough to the other girls to see if one of them would bring it up? Like:

“Hey, I heard you didn’t invite crystal to the wedding!  Must be an initimate wedding if you had to limit it!”

Post # 15
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The last thing I want to do is make you feel worse about this.  She’s obviously not a class act and better to know it at least.  It sucks that your group is going to be effected, but honestly there seems to be fallout like that from a lot of weddings (I lost my best friend entirely), you’ll still be friends with the other two at least, and you’ll have new friends who hopefully won’t act like that too.  Go throw a party or something fun, and forget this lady.

Post # 16
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

How rude!! Sorry but you can’t exclude people in a group of friends it causes hurt feelings! I’m sorry your going through this. 

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