(Closed) Not bridezilla enough??

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

While I think it is a little strange that she had Future Mother-In-Law call you, I don’t think this is about her not making you a priority.  It is always difficult to get together in our adult lives, especially in a place not quite close to home.  I would call Future Sister-In-Law to see if another weekend works – get a few choices from her.  Then call the others and ask them if it works for them too.  If that’s not an option, you could try to meet up in FSIL’s town?  If not, then the 3 of you should just have fun that weekend in NYC.  I honestly don’t think she is being selfish or inconsiderate here.  You will have fun regardless.

Post # 4
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I agree with @BackyardLoveBird – you’re being overly sensitive. Yes, she should have called you directly – shame on her for being cowardly in that respect – but it doesn’t mean she’s selfish or “doesn’t care.” (Actually, if you think about it – if she didn’t care about you/your feelings, she wouldn’t have hesitated to tell you directly.) 

You’ve already done the right thing in suggesting that you find another weekend. Doesn’t seem to me that it’s too much at this point to ask your sister and other Bridesmaid or Best Man to change the date. What I wouldn’t do is complain or whine to the other girls about this; it will set the wrong tone for what you’re trying to accomplish by getting them all together.

Bottom line: These things happen! Roll with it and don’t give it too much importance.

Post # 5
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think you’ll have to let it go.  It’s a bummer though.  You can see if another weekend works but I don’t think your Future Sister-In-Law is being inconsiderate or selfish.  Maybe a little silly in not calling you herself but she did call your sister which was a good way to go as she is the planner.  At least FSIL didn’t RSVP yes and then the day of just not show up like someone did for mine.  You should be dissapointed that day no longer works for her but not mad at her. 

Post # 6
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Is it possible to move your bach party to another night? Because that sounds like the simplest solution to all this. She may not have asked her mom to call you, the mom maybe just decided to do so. I know my mom takes things into her own hands and talks to people on my behalf even when I havent asked her to.

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