(Closed) Not Bridezillas but FMIL-zillas

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1455 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We sat down each of our parents (my mom, his mom, his dad) and asked if they planned to contribute anything to the wedding. My mom said she couldn’t promise anything (my dad passed away without life insurance) but has since sent us a tiny bit that has helped. Future Mother-In-Law offered a few THOUSAND. This was right after we got engaged, in January 2009.

Further, we told her we planned on a march 2010 wedding, and she said NO that we should have a fall wedding. This is after we explained we needed our Christmas 2009 bonuses and tax return for 2009!

At Thankgiving- after we’ve sent STD’s and many of my family and friends (ALL out of town) have booked flights, she decides to tell us she won’t be giving us anything. ANYTHING. For NO REASON we could decipher. She tried to blame it all on her partner (who gave her own daughter 30 grand for HER wedding) but gave no real “explanation.” We had to cancel our reception. Out of my 89 family members, only 9 are now coming.

About a month later she was asking us what we’re doing for our rehersal dinner (just having anyone who wants to come, come, and pay for themselves) and our “reception” (immediate family and wedding party at a restaurant) and we asked why she was asking. She said to get info so she could see how her and her partner could contribute. I said very politely that due to past circumastances, I’m not going to be counting on money from ANYONE since I don’t trust that we’ll see it. She huffed and puffed, was silent, said how INSULTED she was. I said I wasn’t saying it to hurt her, but after what happened, I would like reassurance if she DID decide to contribute, and to know that we are not that trusting when it comes to people offering money now. She stormed out of the restaurant (after asking for a box when the food came because she was “no longer hungry.”

It’s allllllways drama with this one! She called my future BIL’s gf a hoochie and told all of us about the girl’s abortion (really, was it our business?) and then when she saw her, grabbed her stomach and asked if she was pregnant again. (She wasn’t- she is a COLLEGE STUDENT and I”m sure drinks a lot.) It’s…. challenging.

Post # 4
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768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I think it’s so interesting that Future Mother-In-Law is one letter off from FML. If that doesn’t speak volumes about my experience, I don’t know what does. :-/

Post # 6
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4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh my gosh, kj, she sounds like alot of work! I wish my Future Mother-In-Law cared even in the least bit. She doesn’t, and it makes me a little bit sad. Maybe once we’re actually engaged she’ll care but Mr. KM said probably not.

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