Post # 1
Surfing the internet wedding circuit has got me all confused. People talk about having so much to do when planning their wedding, having to take a day off from talking about their weddings, etc. My confusion lies in not having this issue and I feel like I must be missing something.
I have most of my big things bought/planned/booked including venue, food, cake, dress, photographer, DJ, decorator, ordering flowers in February, bought DIY invitations to do in January, Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, shoes, veil. Things I still need are a salon, make up, transport, minister, wedding rings, do some registering, make programs and a few other smaller things.
Please tell me there are other people out there feeling this way! Or at least tell me what I’m missing! Maybe because I have a decorator so I don’t have all kinds of DIY to do?
Edit: Just want to add that our engagement will be about 11 months long.
Post # 3
I had a long engagement and did a lot of planning ahead of time. There still seems to be a lot to do in the last month or two, just getting everything finalized and dealing with last minute issues and such. Registry took much longer than we thought it would, too.
Post # 4
You can make a wedding whatever you want it to be!
I was pretty chill for the most part until the week of, where it got kind of hectic just because it all kind of comes together at once. but its doable! Don’t be afraid to ask for help 😉
Post # 5
Fiance proposed on October 1 of this year, and we set a date in April 2013. It’s a ways off, so we haven’t felt particularly pressured to start doing everything yet. I’ve been checking out venues online, requesting information, and we chose a couple to visit. Haven’t chosen bridesmaids or groomsmen yet, though we’ve thought about them. Have gone dress shopping twice at two different places; will go again with some family around Christmastime. I’m starting to collect brooches for my brooch bouquet (from local thrift stores and estate sales). Other than that, not a lot going on yet. I don’t think planning should be stressful–in fact, I think it should NOT be stressful, because at the end of the day, you’ll be married one way or another. That’s just my philosophy. I refuse to get sucked into any potential drama or let myself get stressed about it.
Post # 6
My wedding seems like it’s a long way off, but with my work schedule (3 jobs) I have only a small fraction of that time actually available for planning. So Fiance and I try to dedicate one day each week for planning, running errands, etc. We’ll see how that works out for us…
Post # 7
@Eva Peron: I agree. It’s as busy as you want it to be.
My engagement was 14 months. For the first 3 months, we were pretty busy visiting venues, but once we booked that, I didnt really do anything until maybe 6 months before the wedding. I never felt busy with wedding stuff, even up to the last week and day off, everything just sort of fell into place without much effort.
Post # 8
I hear you loud and clear. I keep thinking I’ve forgotten a bunch of things that have to get done because I’m not tearing around trying to get five zillion things done. Most of the wedding planning busy-ness for me has been more emotional than “getting stuff done”. Part of why I’m not too busy is that my venue includes a lot of the little rental things that might be an issue otherwise, as well as catering. I know I’ll have some stuff to do later on– invitations, dress, officiant, rings, some decorations, but it doesn’t really seem to add up too crazily.
The other thing for me is that we have a pretty long engagement, like 19 months or so? And I’m in grad school, so I usually have a lot of deadlines coming up WAY closer than anything wedding-related.
Post # 9
I have the same lack of a problem. We have the venue – it’s also the ceremony location, and includes catering and some lodging. We have the officiant, and know what DJ we’re going to use. We know the colors. I have my dress ordered. I’m not using real flowers, so I don’t need a florist. There is still “stuff” to do – but it’s not crushing me.
Post # 10
@Eva Peron: It’s as busy as you want it to be.
Exactly! I’m not going to drive myself crazy with themes, colors or going overboard with personal touches. I think once the major decisions are done (venue, photographer, dress etc) it gets so much easier. And I try to be decisive. Over thinking or redoing things that are already set is an easy way to never cross things off your To Do List. At some point you have to just be satisfied and leave it alone. I also agree with the PP who mentioned its probably the emotional side or family dramas which cause the most problems.
Post # 11
I’m not really too busy with it, but I do obssess too much about it! 😀 So I guess my mind is actually more busy than my hands.
I have been taking it easy and procrastinating, which doesn’t help either.
Post # 12
Although I browse wedding bee all the time, i don’t actually plan much! We’ve booked most of our big stuff, but haven’t worked out any of the details. I’m guessing that’s what takes a lot of time. Most of my married friends have spent soo long planning their weddings, but one friend said she didn’t think it was stressful at all. That’s what I’m like so far. I don’t know what all the fuss is about!
Post # 13
I have so much to do, and, now, no money to do it with. I literally have only the dress and the flowers covered. I have no idea how I’m going to make this work.
Post # 14
Our weddings are totally different, but I agree with you that I cant understand why people are so busy… And this comes from someone who is doing literally everything DIY, with a budget of $2000 – and 6 months to go. The thing is, it’s taking place across the country, so there really isn’t much I can do now… I’m certain that the month before the wedding, when I’m getting everything done over there – I’ll have a different story. For now, I’m making the playlist, the venue is booked, and the only thing I really need to get going on is sewing the bridesmaids dresses, and sewing my dress. I can’t let myself worry about a lot of other things because I can’t do anything about them from so far away. So I spend most of my planning time doing things to make sure I’m prepared when the time gets closer, like researching the best flower markets nearby, organizing all my decoration plans and finding out where to get all the stuff from, etc.
Post # 15
@leafgum: I’m also gettied married across the country and I think that’s a huge part of not having much to do. A lot of the things I need to do I do via phone or email or my parents or Maid/Matron of Honor take care of it.