Post # 1
Does anyone else feel like their wedding date isn’t a big deal? Or was getting married a significant event or change in your relationship? Please explain.
I keep forgetting how long we’ve been married. Our wedding day was perfect, but it didn’t feel like a day where we started a new chapter in our lives together. It wasn’t the day we vowed to each other to be committed for the rest of our lives, the day we moved in together, or anything. For us it felt like a wonderful celebration of our relationship and nothing more, and we don’t see the point in celebrating a celebration. The biggest change was that my Mother-In-Law started referring to herself as “Mom” to me. All other family members already established whether or not they wanted to be “Mom,” “Grandpa,” etc. years before the wedding.
Post # 3
@beeks: In a former relationship, we didn’t not celebrate our marriage or birthdays or anything. What I really wanted was not to have to buy gifts, but in some way still honor the day. It eventually morphed into nothing. I must prefer to celebrate something – if anything an excuse to go get some champagne or a nice dinner!
H and I celebrate the first day we met, our first date… Meaning if we met while skiing, then we make sure to go skiing on that day.
As long as you BOTH don’t want to do anything, then that is fine with you two.
Post # 4
@sienna76: We are certainly not anti-celebration, anti-gifts or anything like that. We do some combination of gifts/dinners/trips for dating anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, even something for Valentine’s Day.
I guess I just wanted to know if anyone else (besides my own Darling Husband of course) felt like the wedding day wasn’t that big a deal.
Post # 5
we celebrate our wedding anniversary 🙂 its nice to celebrate and reminise the special day of your lives
Post # 6
@beeks: It looks like you just got married in October. Why don’t you guys wait to see how you feel about celebrating when your actual anniversary gets closer? It may mean more to you then.
For me, nothing changed in our relationship when we got married… except that we were married, and that means a different level of commitment, to me and my Darling Husband. Yeah, we didn’t start living together or anything, b/c we already were, but it still has a distinct meaning for me, much more than our first date or our first kiss or anything like that. Something about the acknowledgement of the commitment before family & friends – it is different than just being in a relationship and saying you’ll be together forever. Hell, I said that to my first boyfriend back in high school, and I have no idea where he is now.
Sorry to ramble, just having a hard time expressing why marriage has independent value for me.
Post # 7
Your husband must LOVE you! “No, I don’t really see the importance of celebrating our anniversary” You are just about every man’s DREAM!
Post # 8
My husband and I were committed to each other LONG before we were married. When we got married, I didn’t feel different. Neither of us did. I was just officially his “wife”. So what? I was his long before. We got married because we wanted to, plus I was then entitled to benefits from the Navy (Plus he gets paid more). It wasn’t “NECESSARY” to us. I would have stayed with him and had children with him regardless of if we were wed legally or not (Oklahoma does not recongnize a common law marriage) so it was just a formality for us.
But, truthfully, our wedding day was no different from any other day except now we were “allowed” to call each other husband and wife. I wouldn’t be upset if we didn’t celebrate our anniversary. We probably will, unless one of us forgets (Which is very likely to happen.)
Post # 9
Me and Darling Husband love celebration miscellaneous events, so we’re looking forward to celebrating our first married anniversary! 😀
Post # 10
We don’t and we didn’t! We have never celebrated anniversaries beyond talking about how amazing it is being together and reflecting on the number of years. I felt like we should for the wedding anniversary, but honestly I feel like the anniversary of when we started our relationship is more meaningful. Ultimately, we talked about it and both feel it is unnecessary. On our first anniversary we then both proceeded to get projectile vomiting sick 🙂 So we won’t be keeping that tradition up.
Utimately, if it isn’t “you” don’t feel the pressure to do it. My Darling Husband does lots of sweet things for me randomly. I didn’t need another day.