(Closed) Not certain what to do.

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
3136 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Do they really need to match? Why not let her choose something she likes in a shade of purple?

Post # 5
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My mom and sister are both bigger so I understand the frustration of having to find something you think looks good on you.  I just told them I wanted fall colors….that was all.  They both wore chiffon dresses from David’s bridal btw in deep fall colors.  They searched and searched for dresses and my sister didn’t get hers until 2 weeks before the wedding.  But they loved them.  Also, all DH’s family wore chiffon dresses and they are bigger girls too.  

Post # 7
23602 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

My guess is she’s probably looking pretty great in at least a couple of styles, but she’s going through some post pregnancy weight issues in her head.  It’s about the time to order for a September wedding, so maybe you should just have her choose what she likes best, and tailor to fit the dress to her!

Post # 8
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If she orders a dress now she still has time to lose weight AND get it tailored.  That’s one option.  The other would be to find out from DB when the absolute last date she could order it would be, and give her that.  Whatever she decides to do she should do.  I honestly think you are being very accommodating of your bridesmaids.  I also picked a color and am letting my girls pick their own styles.

Post # 10
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It may be awkward, but maybe suggest some Spanx.

Post # 11
1529 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@JenniferSC:  This!

my BMs will be wearing the same dress, and they range from sizes 0 to 20 so we will be finding something that flatters them all, if they need to wear differnt undergarments to make them more comfortable then so be it.

Post # 12
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had a Bridesmaid or Best Man that was reluctant in the same way — I thought several of the dresses looked great on her but she wasn’t so sure. Once I realized she was sort of not feeling ANY of the options, I figured it was more about her not being terribly comfortable in a dress to begin with. I just ended up being a little more “pushy” about the one I thought looked best on her, saying “wow, this one looks great on you! Really feminine and really complements your body! Plus you don’t have to worry about what bra to wear, and it looks even better from the back!” and so on like that. She ended up getting pretty enthusiastic about the dress and is excited to wear it. So maybe that’s all your cousin needs — a LOT of compliments on the one you think looks best, and all the things you like about it, and maybe your words will be able to offset her own negative body perceptions a little bit.

Post # 14
719 posts
Busy bee

@lunathea:  I loved that lapis color at David’s Bridal.  We ordered our dresses REALLY early (10 months before the wedding) but only because they were going to be discontinued.  I have found that the timelines David’s Bridal gives you are usually WAY off (they said my wedding dress was coming in 5 months and it showed up 10 days later…same with Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses). 

Post # 15
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am a bigger girl and feel the best style that looks good on ME (I have a tummy) is anything with an empire waist…maybe try a dress like that if u haven’t before…that style can be very flattering on bigger body types and chiffon is a good fabric to use because it’s flowy and doesn’t cling so I think u got it right on the fabric…suggest some empire waist styles to her or something with rouching around the mid section…that’s what I would be more comfortable choosing…

Post # 16
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Agree with JenniferSC , have you tried Spanx? I can realte to your Bridesmaid or Best Man post baby body blues, but she has to realize that although she might not look how she wants, she HAS to chose something! I refused to buy any clothing for almost a year after my twins were born, but I wasn’t in a wedding party!

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