(Closed) Not changing last name????

posted 11 years ago in Encore
Post # 17
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444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I want to change my name, but I’m actually encouraged by my Fiance not to.  I’ve already published and [minorly] established myself in my career and the name change will make it difficult to continue the acknowledgment.  Many women in my field do not change their names if already published before the marriage.  I’m thinking I’ll change legally, but may keep the Maiden name professionally…or, hyphenate…so confused!

Post # 18
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3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I didn’t change my name with my first marriage, even though I was only 23 at the time.  When someone asked me once why I didn’t have the same last name as my husband, I said that my husband had chosen to keep his maiden name.  😉

This time around, it’s a same-sex marriage, so we couldn’t figure out who was supposed to change, anyway.

Post # 19
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1 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m from Québec, Canada and in this province you CAN’T change your name. I’m getting married to an American in the States so I’m thinking of adding is last name to mine.

It was a sensitive issue when I first brought it up to my Future Father-In-Law. I will keep my maiden name as my middle name because I don’t have one.

Post # 20
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42 posts
Newbee

I changed my name last time and recently resumed my maiden name (by the way, I have no kids). I’m getting married next May and my lovely fiance thinks I should keep my maiden name. I’m feeling mixed–I don’t want to change my name at work, as people are just getting used to my name change; I also prefer to not change all my legal docs after just recently going through the hassle; however, I plan to have kids and like the idea of us having the same name. I’m considering hyphating my name or adding his name to the marriage certificate so that I can have more options (last time I didn’t change the certificate and it seemed in NY that my only option was to take his name and bid farewell to my maiden name. Any others out there in my situation?

Post # 21
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88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My mom never changed her name, and I have my dad’s last name. I don’t think this was ever a problem for us growing up. I never noticed anyone being confused about whether I was her daughter even though we had different last names. Although one time, someone asked if my parents were divorced – this probably had to do with the fact that my mom never wore a wedding ring (she finds rings to be "itchy").  I think, at least where I live, in a big city, people know that lots of families don’t share the same last name.

Post # 22
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1 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I hyphenated my last name, which my H was okay with. He didn’t care whether I kept my maiden name at all – he was just happy that I took his! And both of our last names are short, so it actually makes a pretty cool sounding new, hyphenated last name! 🙂 

The name changing process is so tedious! I had to take a day off of work just to go around to the DMV, banks, etc. to change my last name on all of my accounts! I am procrastinating on updating my name on my passport because that will be such a tedious (and expensive process!). 

I found changing my email address actually the easiest. I created a new email account using my new last name and did a little research on how I could migrate my entire account over to my new account (my thought here was “why keep two accounts active?”). I actually found an inexpensive email migration tool called MigrationBox (http://bit.ly/forWaw) that I used to migrate everything over to my new email account: my Inbox, sent mail, documents, folders, statuses, etc. Everything was moved to my new account in about an hour and the price was right. This tool totally saved my sanity! I definitely recommend checking out MigrationBox if you are planning on creating a new email account for your new last name – it saved me hours of manual work! And it’s really nice to have everything in one spot now.

Best of luck everyone! 😉  

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