(Closed) Not Changing Name…Maybe.

posted 12 years ago in Names
Post # 3
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am not changing my name either.  I have been told that BOTH names are legal and can be used as little or a much as you would like; although you can’t change "legal" things without changing your SS card.  You might want to ask a lawyer in your state though.

Post # 4
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think there is a good online resource for this called Missnowmrs.com that helps with all of the forms, etc. in case you decide you want to deal with the legal name change stuff.

Post # 5
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Your legal name is your maiden name until you change it.  So if you don’t want to change your name, you don’t do anything.  Just keep using your name. 

If you wanted to legally change your name without getting married, you have to petition the court for a name change; its a simple legal document, and there is a fee associated.  This notarized document would be what you show at the social security office, send with your passport application, and present at the DMV.  If you get married, your marriage license takes the places of that document.

It is actually legal to call yourself by any name as long as you don’t do it with intent to defraud, and with the exception of your legal documents (social security, driver’s license, passport, professional license) and any documents tied directly to those (car registration, payroll) you can "change" your name with just a phone call.  Your credit cards, insurance, etc will not actually ask for proof of name change.  If you google "name change usage" you will find a lot of information about how to change the name you use – as opposed to legally changing your name.

The problem comes, obviously, when you apply for a new credit card and the name you list doesn’t match your SSN, or when you get asked for ID with your credit card in a store and your drivers’ license doesn’t match your credit card. 

Post # 6
32 posts

Maybe this will make some sense: You not changing your name will be just like the other people (including all of the men) won’t don’t change your names either.

When you get married, you may need to notify your employer — most employers have benefits for spouses and health care benefits may be cheaper depending on you and your husband’s employers. The HR people at your job will be able to help you with this.

If you are not already sharing a car, insurance, rent/mortgage, finances with your fiance, you will want to decide how to manage these issues after the wedding — regardless of whether you change your name.

Post # 7
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Good point c-girl.  And for anybody out there whose husband is changing his name, he can also do that with the marriage license (in place of court petition) same as you can.

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