(Closed) Not coming for dinner… but I’ll be at the reception

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@AEMalmostK:

sweet, I would’t have to shell out 50-70$ a head to feed them!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@AEMalmostK:

Once the party starts seats open up, I wouldn’t worry about it, I think I would doubble check with them that that is really what they want to do.  You don’t want them showing up for dinner with no place for them.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

are they attending the ceremony?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Uhh it is a little offensive to me that someone would elect to skip my ceremony and just come to the party.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s actually pretty common where I’m from, more of an ‘open reception’ after 8:30/9:30 ish. Even ‘word of mouth’ invites that the party starts at x time, and then most of the town shows up. 

I wouldn’t be offended, you do get to save money on their plates and still see them that night. If it does bother you, you could call them and explain that you’d prefer them for the whole thing, but really, I don’t know if it’s worth discussing. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would be confusd too? That’s kinda weird.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@AEMalmostK: I’d just check with Fiance on that one. Here, it’s seated for dinner (and often times even that is open seating) and once the dancing starts, any chair is an open chair for guests. Maybe that’s what FI’s fam is thinking.

And if he’s confused as to what they’re meaning, then I’d just give them a ring and see if that’s really what they meant and that you’re not familiar with it so you just wanted to check in. How strange though to write it in on an invite rather than calling you, though. Ahh, the joys of new family 🙂

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@indibee:

< lol thats how my weddings gonna be. i expect half the town at the end of the night to attend

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I work with someone who openly says they never come to wedding ceremonies and only show up to the reception. I think it is so rude. The whole reason for the wedding is the ceremony!!! WTH?! If you skip that why even come to part of the reception??? If I’m inviting to you sit down and witness an extremely private moment with me and my family and then to break bread with us, I’m seriously offended that you want to pick and chose what’s important to you, what you think you should be at, and why. If you can’t come then don’t. 

I know you’re stressing over this, so what about having your Maid/Matron of Honor or your mom call them to ask about their RSVP because it wasn’t clear?

 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i had someone skip the ceremony and come to the reception but i still had to feed them –  i understood though – she is a single mom of three beautiful children and its expensive and difficult to get someone to babysit from 2 in the afternoon till whenenver.

i would be happy with the savings! dont worry about the little things like where they will sit – they will shimmy their way in.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m curious as to where all the “They’re not coming to the ceremony, how rude” type comments are coming from (I agree with that, btw!)…OP said they weren’t having dinner but were attending the reception, presumably for dancing, etc.?

 

I’d interpret that response as, they plan to grab a bite before coming to the reception and will show up after dinner has been finished, etc.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mrs Grape:

I was under the impression that they were going to the ceremony and the party after dinner.

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