Post # 1
I’m usually on this website for rings and things like that, but I’m writing today to get some advice on a difficult subject. For a bit of background, my husband and I hired an extremely talented photographer for our wedding. The quality of the photos are not why I’m writing. Our photographer is a documentary-style photographer and while I gave him a shot list, between simply running out of time and my being very sick (I looked normal but the way I felt showed through in many of our photos) we did not get nearly as many close, intimate formal portraits of just us as I wanted.
While I know posed formal photos are not everything to everyone, they were very important to me. We have a few photos of just us, but we either look stiff/not relaxed and totally in love or I look like I’m spacing out. We were short on time for multiple reasons, did not do a first look, and by the time it came time for “sunset” photos (which we were depending on for more portraits) we were both sweaty and messed up from having the time of our lives dancing with our friends and family. Needless to say, none of those turned out.
I’m writing because it’s been 4 months since we got married, 3 months since we got our photos back and I still haven’t been able to get over the fact that when I look at photos of us from our wedding day, I’m not excited or full of joy about them. All I can think about when I see them is I’m spacing out in this one or how sad it is that we don’t look as in love as we are in these and these were taken on our wedding day! I’m having difficulty knowing we can’t go back in time and retake the photos I really want while feeling guilty for not being completely happy with the photos we do have.
I guess I’m looking for advice, people who are/have been in similar positions, or suggestions. Please be kind!
-A newly married Bee looking for support
Post # 2
- Wedding: July 2019 - City, State
If it’s just getting pictures of the two of you in your wedding clothes, I think it’s worth considering a mini shoot where you guys get dolled up again and take some when you are both relaxed and feeling good. Yes, it might cost a few hundred more dollars (not minimizing, weddings are expensive!) but it’s relatively painless since it’s just the two of you and photographer, not the whole party, for an hour or two. It’s possible your original photographer might do this for you at a low cost too, especially if he is local and you are flexible on time!
Post # 3
tulipbee : Thank you for your thoughtful response!
Post # 4
We are doing something similar we will have are photos done at our wedding and then we are going to have another photo shoot dressed up somewhere else on a different day. It is a more money because you have to do your hair and makeup again but it’s worth it. Plus being sick before that’s out of your control. Is there some neat location you guys could do a redo photo shoot?
Post # 5
This is the one thing I wish I had more of from my wedding too, so I can empathize. There are great candids and ceremony shots, etc., but I don’t love any of my posed portrait style photos, and I was hoping for at least one really great one that I could frame and send to family. But I realize I’m still lucky to have so many other great photos. I also feel better about it since I did have an engagement shoot with lots of portraits, so even though I was hoping for a beautiful bride and groom portrait, there will be plenty of other portrait style photos of me and dh in our lives.
Post # 6
heatdisneybride : Thanks for sharing! Are you both wearing your wedding attire, bouquet, boutonnière the whole thing all over again at your second shoot? How long after your wedding are you planning on doing the second shoot? We were considering doing a styled-Bride and groom shoot in our wedding attire around our first anniversary (thinking it would be both fun and provide the portraits I wanted in our wedding attire).
browneyedgirl24 : Thank you for your comments, I too am lucky to have beautiful candids from the day (mostly the ceremony) and our engagement photos are also wonderful keepsakes of this time in our lives.
Post # 7
newbeegirl : My wedding pictures turned out pretty shitty, the photographer did a terrible job at editing and the lighting was off in all the photos. We’re going to have a family friend who does photography (out of state so we didnt hire her) edit a few so we have some to frame.
Perhaps you guys could do a one year anniversary photo shoot or something?
Sorry they didn’t turn out how you wanted them to.
Post # 8
Ugh I feel you on the disappointment. I just ordered Thank You cards and realized that there are zero nice, formal portraits of the 2 of us. I just wanted one posed, formal, both of us smiling at the camera, photo to frame. And instead I have a ton of candid moments (and those didn’t turn out great). So I don’t really have advice, just letting you know that you’re not alone in your feelings.
Post # 9
I’m not sure we’re still in the process of planning it. Normally they do it a few days after your wedding but the location is having work done on it so it’s looking like a month after. I don’t know if we will do boutineer and bouquet because I would have to get another set made but everything else we plan on dressing up and hair & makeup the same. I think it’s a good idea and you get another day in your wedding dress.
Post # 10
I think a bridal shower type dress with bouquet could be cute if you don’t want to get fully dolled up again. But I get wanting good pics in the big dress! I think using a landmark day like 1 year anniversary (or 6 months, or first Valentine’s Day) could be nice so it’s not just makeup wedding pictures.
Post # 11
To me it doesn’t sound like your photographer’s fault, but rather a lot of factors that all came together and set the whole situation up for failure. I dont’ say that to make you feel bad, because at this point it’s done and there’s no going back. You hired a documentary photographer, but said formal portraits were really important to you. Those two things don’t go together. Between not doing a first look (which is when you get the best couples photos!) and being sick, it sounds like a lot of those things were just out of the photographers control.
I would suggest having your hair/makeup done and both of you getting back into your wedding attire and doing a wedding portrait session. I wouldn’t wait for your anniversary because speaking from experience, life gets in the way and you never end up doing them. I’m a wedding photographer, who hired a phenominal wedding photographer for my day. What she captured was beautiful, but it was horrible weather and we didn’t get near the quality of couples photos I wanted. It’s not her fault, it was out of everyone’s control. I always intended to do a session in our wedding attire later and here we are 6 years and 1 baby down the road and we still haven’t done it!