(Closed) Not depressed, but never "happy" (long)

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Chapssstick:  Depression is a lot more than sadness or crying.  For a lot of people it manifests as loss of energy or enjoyment, lethargy, change in appetite, or anger and irritability. If it concerns you enough that you feel you need help, see a therapist or psychiatrist.  

I’m a therapist, let me know if you have any other specific questions.

Post # 4
927 posts
Busy bee

I went through this a few years back.  I finally saw a counselor and he told me he thought I was depressed – I was shocked.  When I thought about someone who was depressed I pictured someone who cries a lot or has suicidal thoughts.  That’s not the case at all though.  I realized I’d been living life comatose and made changes and am so much happier.    Maybe you should meet with a counselor, most universities have a counseling center that’s free to their students.  

Post # 6
2872 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sounds like depression to me.  I have struggled with depression since I was in middle school, and it often manifests just like that.  🙁 *hugs*  I moved to L.A. two years ago for grad school (just graduated, but still here) – as much as I hated it (moved from the bay area), I have grown to love much of the city.  I’m (now officially) a clinical social worker/therapist living in Los Angeles, so PM me if you need anything.

Post # 7
3297 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

It sounds like depression to me too. It manifests in all sorts of different ways, including feeling physically tired and sore.

Post # 8
2126 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017

@Chapssstick:  Yes– you’re definitely not alone!!!! I’ve also never spoken to anyone about this in real life but I sometimes go through periods of life where i feel like I’m smiling and putting on a show and looking normal but inside I’m just ‘borderline content’. Not unhappy per se, but just… blah. I work with children and when I’d see their pure happy, joyful faces I’d be so jealous of that feeling.

Luckily a lot of great things have happened recently (in the past year or so- I’m happy with my job, moved in with FI, wgot engaged, taking engagement photos next week) and I just feel like my life is falling together perfectly and luck is on my side, and I am pleased to say that I do feel Happy (with a capital H!) today!

You’re probably worried about the life changes going on. Talk to your FI and get all the reassurance you can from him. I’m sure you’ll enjoy LA, so give it a chance! But don’t feel you have to force yourself to go to a Bachelorette party if you don’t want to though.

Post # 9
9255 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I agree with other posters.  Feeling “blah” and not ever happy = depression.  Please think about seeing someone and maybe taking some medication!  xox  (My FI has depression and anxiety issues.)

@FionnaCake:  Fucking LOVE hyperbole and a half.  Her most recent post was the single funniest and also most heart-breaking thing I’ve ever read about mental health issues. 

Post # 11
2872 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Chapssstick:  Yes, honestly, I agree, no point in starting with a therapist up there now.  But I would start looking into one down here.  Do you have insurance? And I mean it when I say PM me if you need to talk 🙂

Post # 12
1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

look up dysthymia, and talk to a pro. they can help you sort out what’s what. good luck! you do deserve to be happy you know.

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