Post # 1
I really do not want to do either of these. I do not think the garter toss is me at all. Plus I think it’s trashy. I’m 23 and I have three kids. It just doesn’t seem right.
I also feel the bouquet toss have nothing to do with my personality.
But of course, my mom feels differently and is questioning why I don’t want to do them. She is saying how boring my wedding will be. I have all these don’ts.
Like No chicken dance, no YMCA song, no cha cha slide, and no electric slide.
I don’t know how to please her, but stay who I am as a mother.
Post # 3
I didn’t do any of those things, and I didn’t feel like I was missing anything at the wedding. Do what YOU want to do!
Post # 4
@sosewmama: skip it! You don’t want it so don’t do it.
Post # 5
You will get a lot of support on here to nix those things.
I am not doing them either. It is a fast fading tradition – like handing out wedding favors.
EDIT: We did decide to give the bouquet to the couple who had been together the longest 🙂
Post # 6
I am not doing either of those. I have a 15 year old who already told me that would be gross..lol
Post # 7
It’s so traditional. I’m seeing this phasing out at a lot of the weddings I’m photographing. It’s getting to be a bit tacky if you ask me. So 80’s and 90’s LOL
Post # 8
We didn’t do either and it was great. We tried to minimize the cheeziness as much as possible and got compliments from many guests on it!
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
We’re not doing them either. There are only a few single ladies and some are partnered up so I don’t want to bring attention to them for not being engaged or married yet. As for the guys, I don’t want one of them driving aorund with my garter hung on his rearview mirror. Creepy!
Post # 10
@sosewmama: I have no kids and ALL of your “do nots” are also on my list. I don’t like any of them either!
Do it your way – if your mom thinks it’s boring, so what? More time for your guests to socialize and enjoy each other’s company. It’s not a carnival or day care.. no need for scheduled activities, if you ask me. Good luck!
Post # 11
We arent doing either. We find alot of wedding things like that tacky, so why should i do it?
Post # 12
I think its more fun to not have to do those.
There is no need to make people stop dancing/talking/drinking whatever they are doing to stand there and watch other people do something.
It breaks up the swing of the evening. Instead they will continue on doing whatever it is they are doing and enjoying.
A good DJ makes all the difference in the “fun” factor. Not a garter toss.
Post # 13
I’m not doing either, and we limited those “cheesy” dances that the DJ can choose from (I think we allowed the Macarena and Cotton Eyed Joe, I can’t remember – I hate the chicken dance though).
There is SO much to fill a reception without those items. I’m not worried about it at all.
Post # 14
i feeling pressure on this too. i dont want to do the garter toss but my family seems disapointed:( people keep asking why or you can tell when they get that “weird” face when you tell them lol. but to be honest i think they talked me into it. i would def. be doing it just for my family and friends. but im planning on making it really quick! but im not looking forward to it. i dont like the idea of everyone looking up my skirt. its werid and not me.
Post # 15
My oldest daughter is so cruel I wasnt going to do it but she said ma have it and watch the women disgrace themselves by falling all over the floor.
I told her that is so cruel and she said if they play themselves then it is on them.
Post # 16
We aren’t doing the garter toss (FI doesn’t like it), but we will probably do the bouquet toss. I am not really super exicted or super against it.
I don’t see the bouquet toss as “tacky,” not really sure why any would. Unless someone goes into the whole “desperation of single ladies rant.” But honestly, things have the value of what you assign them.
If you don’t want to do it, then don’t. Plain and simple.
Please be wary of using “tacky” though. I have been lurking for a few months and people tend to get upset when you start throwing thta word around.