Post # 1
My Fiance and I decided not to do a registry. We’ve lived together for 4 years and we just don’t need anymore stuff! I don’t expect gifts or anything but I know that people like to give them regardless. My wedding is a month from today and I’ve been having alot of people ask me where we are registered.
Sooo, my question is how do I respond to the questions?? I didn’t include a registry card in my invitations for obvious reasons. But I feel weird telling people we didn’t register because I don’t want them thinking we’re being greedy and only want money… So should I just be honest and say we didn’t register or??
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
You can tell them you didn’t register, or you can create a small registry at say, bed bath and beyond for some fancy new sheets, plush towels, a couple kitchen utensils you like, but never felt you should spend on yourself. That way people who want to give you a gift, can give you something you’ll like and eventhough it’s not something you NEED, it’s something you want or an upgrade to your existing items.
Post # 3
If you truly don’t need/want anything: “That’s so sweet of you to ask! Since we already live together, we really don’t need anything so aren’t registered anywhere. Hey, did you see that (insert random current event or topic change here).”
If you would like cash instead: “Thanks for asking! We don’t need any household items, and are just saving up for the honeymoon (house reno, house down payment, etc) at this time.”
Post # 4
There is absolutely no way that I would ever in a million years think that a couple who didn’t register would be greedy!
One caveat, though: people who will still want to give you a gift will either give cash or maybe some random thing that they think you’d like. If you’re ok with this, great – if not, you might want to have some guidelines – I went to a wedding where they said “make a donation to your favorite charity” (that was very clear) and a couple of others where they did a honeymoon or other ‘cash’ registry (which was helpful in cases where I felt like giving cash would have been impersonal).
Post # 5
We didn’t register either – I think it’s just another awful way of asking for gifts (here! buy me this exact thing!). It’s simple – you just say “we didn’t register.”
Post # 6
Thank you everyone for your help!
So, I told them that we are not registered and we don’t really need anything and they’re still asking what they can get us…. lol back to square one?
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Back to square one! Certain people feel they have to bring gifts and are more comfortable with registries. We weren’t going to do a registry bc we don’t need any household items and certainly don’t need or want cash but I created registries with Macy’s and Target, a couple items each all under $50 for the stubborn folks. There are always a few that won’t take no for an answer. 🙂
Post # 8
I don’t really have any advice, but just wanted to say kudos for not doing one because you realize you already have more than enough stuff. A lot of people would still want all the stuff even if they already had too much…. I do plan on doing one myself because we literally won’t have any stuff for our kitchen if I don’t. Props though and congrats!
Post # 9
We asked that people donate to charity instead, so it was clear that the lack of registry really did mean we didn’t want anything for ourselves.
Aunts and uncles disregarded this and gave cash anyway, but our other guests really did listen.
Post # 10
They can give you their well wishes and their attendance at your wedding, if that’s applicable.
Post # 11
When asked about it, I would just explain that you really dont need anything and their presence in your life and at your wedding is gift enough. Most people will just send a nice card and/or give cash.
Post # 12
I’d say do a small registy to appease the guests. There are bound to be new things you need like towels and sheets and a few kitchen supplies off amazon. I see what you mean about not wanting one, but it sounds like your guests are coming from a good place. Crystal….upgraded bar set, sea food knives and forks are a way to start. Fine China too…
I didn’t want to register either…but I realized it made things easier on my guests.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre
If people ask where you are registered. Simply say we didn’t register
Post # 14
For those that insist could you think of any experiences that you would like instead of physical gifts? If you like to travel then thats an easy one. Other ideas are contributions towards date nights like restaurant vouchers or couples spa experiences. If you have any hobbies you do together you could ask for something for those e.g camping equipment.
Post # 15
Say you didnt register and that you arent expecting any gifts, including monetary gifts. However, I still suggest that you have a registry because I can GUARANTEE you that you will find at least something to put in it. Go to myregistry.com and check out their inspiration boards and to see what other people are adding in. That can give u a start in creating ur registry. Check it out!!