(Closed) Not doing a registry?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
5648 posts
Bee Keeper

We didn’t register and if people asked we said no gifts and we appreciated guests just making the effort and expense to come to our wedding.  My mum and friends helped spread that word.

we had 60 day guests and had approx £1000 in cash gifts and some other bits like frames or wine etc.


Post # 17
127 posts
Blushing bee

To the OP, registries are considered a tad rude where I’m from (as in an expectation of what to buy and how much to spend on the couple) so it’s sort of standard to give a cash gift of what you can afford to the bride and groom. Anyway since about 95% of couples getting married already live together, buying household items would be pointless.

Post # 18
1656 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

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mathiasenn :  We registred at REI for matching kayaks. They would have been beyond our means alone, but we use them still today. Some of my old-fashioned family needed us to register for a more tradiitonal item. So, we listed a very nice Kitcheaid mixer (worlds ahead of the one I owner) and commercial cookie sheet. Again, we still use these and my family was satisfied.

Post # 19
1740 posts
Bumble bee

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mathiasenn :  Say “Whatever you like or nothing at all!” That is very odd for them to keep pushing. Maybe you could make a honeymoon registry? Honeyfund etc? You do want a honeymoon right? 🙂 

Post # 20
914 posts
Busy bee

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mathiasenn :  If you don’t want anything, you could pick a charity or two that you and your Fiance support. That’s what my guy’s best friend did for their wedding, and a ton of people donated.

Post # 21
23 posts
  • Wedding: October 2016

Going thru this right now, we are getting married in Nov and have been living together for a few years so we don’t really need any more “stuff”. On the Registry section of our website, I stated just that, and said if you neeeeed to do something, please consider donating to _______ or _______ charity. I did tell my neighbors we need a new crockpot because they were insisting like crazy, but thats all I’ve asked for. For my shower, the girls planning it said if people want to do something, they could “shower” us in gift cards for a dinner, weekend away, etc. It is hard for people to get over, they must assume you DO want something you just feel bad asking!

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