(Closed) Not doing favors ? Is this rude ?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
3586 posts
Sugar bee

Colormepink:  most people don’t even notice Unless it’s some sort of food like cup cakes or cookies. I’m not doing favors. I am spending the money on alcohol for my guest and making sure they are fed well so they will be happy with that. Favors remind me more of a kids party with let party goodie bags. They will not be missed.

Post # 3
4505 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s not rude at all. The reception itself is the “favor”– you do not need to throw in an additional gift.

I almost never actually want the favor anyway (even a candy bar–I am an adult, and as nice as free candy is, I don’t really eat it and can just buy it myself if I really want some). 


Post # 4
2257 posts
Buzzing bee

No favor needed, unless it’s expected in your culture. They’re nice, but not required.

Post # 5
782 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Colormepink:  a photobooth can be considered a favor! So you are covered! I wouldn’t worry about it! People won’t even notice!

Post # 6
190 posts
Blushing bee

Don’t do it! Most people don’t take favours!  We’re not doing them – the ‘open bar’ will be the favour guests appreciate most.  Besides, I can’t think of one guest that needs yet ANOTHER monogrammed shot glass with a couples wedding date on it.

Post # 7
1222 posts
Bumble bee

I didn’t do any favors at my wedding, and I didn’t do a guestbook either. I don’t think anyone noticed and I don’t think it’s rude.

Post # 8
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I just realized the last wedding I went to didn’t have favors. Skip it unless you are really motivated or moved by a particular idea. 

We have our photobooth pictures on our fridge – so to me, that’s a wonderful favor!

Post # 10
190 posts
Blushing bee

Colormepink:  the guests are getting an amazing free meal, free entertainment, open (ish) bar and a great night out celebrating with their friends.  I don’t know any reasonable people that would deem this as ‘not enough’.  PLUS you’re most likely sending them thank you notes too, right?  I think favours are pretty antiquated at this point… IMO….

Post # 11
46 posts
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m not doing favors either. Skip them! I’d rather go to a wedding where i’m getting a nice meal and free drinks than a favor.

Post # 12
2920 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Not rude at all! Most people won’t even notice and it is not a big deal. Don’t waste another moment worrying about this.

Post # 13
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

Skip the favours, and save yourself the cash & stress. 

Post # 14
2092 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Colormepink:  we didn’t do favours, no one even mentioned it. You’ll be fine. 

Post # 15
8917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Colormepink:  I honestly don’t know how many weddings I went to before I realized I was supposed to take those little trinkets home. Even now, sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t and I probably would not even notice if there was no trinket there. You have my permission to skip the favors. Photobooth and open bar = even.

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