Post # 1
We are not doing the garter toss. I am wondering if other brides who are not doing this are still getting a garter. I was thinking of getting one anwyways. I found a cute one that is half Cubs and half Sox – which is perfect since we are both huge fans of the "other" team. We both enjoy watching baseball together and take turns going to see each other’s team.
But then I got a call from my fiance’s Grandma. She normally doesn’t call me so I was not expecting it. She asked if I got my garter yet and I replied by saying no, I didn’t. She then said she wanted to buy it for me and wants to know what color. I said ok because I just wasn’t thinking about the one I liked since I was surprised she called and it was a really nice gesture by her.
So now I am not sure if I should just let her pick one out and just have that one – what does it really matter since I am not tossing it anyways? Or if I should still get the Cubs/Sox one and have two? Or just tell her to save her money and not get one….
The Cubs/Sox one came in the set and is custom made so it was a little more money than I should probably spend. I am just wondering what other brides who aren’t doing the toss are doing! Thanks : )
Post # 3
I am not doing the toss because I am a bit conservative and easily embarassed, lol. But I am getting one anyway. I dont think I would feel quite completely "bride" if I didn’t have one.
I think if you want one you should go for it. And if your grandmother gets you one why not wear it during the ceremony for sentimental reasons and then wear the other for fun at the reception.
Post # 4
We’re not doing a garter toss either, but I may wear one for his sake – kinda sexy. Did you mention to his Grandma that you’re not tossing it? Maybe that’s the reason why she wanted to get that for you.
Post # 5
i think you should let your fiances grandma buy it for you. it sounds like that would still be special to you. we’re not doing a garder toss either, but i am wearing one too. i think i’ll just give it to my fiance when we’re together before the reception and he can keep it as a keepsake:)
Post # 6
I didn’t do one, but I did have a garter on, as my "something blue". If it were me, even though the Sox-Cubs is a cute idea, I might go with just wearing the one from Grandma, just to save the money. Plus, it’s a nice gesture that she wants to do something special for you. I wore a garter that I got as a present, even though I didn’t throw it at the reception. My husband liked it though. 😉
Post # 7
get grandma to get the garter u wanted anyway…. u can always think about it later and it’s the one u like… it is nice to have people involved in the way they choose.
Post # 8
We don’t want to do a garter toss either. My co-worker was just telling me how they got around the bouquet toss and garter toss. They asked all couples to get on the dancefloor and had the DJ excuse people from the dancefloor if they had been married less than 5 hours, less than 1 year, less than 5 years, and on and on until the last couple was dancing. The last couple (her grandparents) dancing were given the garter and bouquet. That way you’re honoring marriage as a whole, rather than single-ing out the singles there. I think we’re using it for our wedding.
Post # 9
It sounds to me that the Grandma thinks you’ll be tossing it – I don’t see the point in having two if you’re not going to toss either. She could be miffed that she got you something you didn’t use. Explain to her your plan, and I’m sure she’ll offer to do something else. You could say that you aren’t doing the toss, but are thinking about ________ (lighting candles, drinking champagne, blah blah) and maybe she’ll donate that item.
Post # 10
Thank you so much mattsonc! That is an awesome idea!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
@mattsonc: that is a FANTASTIC idea, i love that sooo much, totally going to do it!!!
Post # 12
We actually are planning on doing an Anniversary Dance! We will be using the song "Remember When" by Alan Jackson for that.
I think his grandma does know we are not doing the toss. Maybe I will remind her and tell her I understand if she wanted to get something else. Fiance’s parents are already getting the toasting glasses : )
Post # 13
I like the idea of his grandmother buying you a special garter…maybe she could get you a blue one to wear for your Something Blue!