Not doing so well….

posted 3 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 76
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Shinytoy :  did you not even read the thread… 

Post # 77
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

So I met my fiancé on tinder. Not on purpose. Tinder was just a funny app that my girlfriends and I liked to swipe on. Totally unexpected but the best thing that’s ever happened to me. 

 

However, my friends and I used to meet tons of guys at bars. Do you often go out on Friday or Saturday nights? Or maybe a bar nearby has a weekly trivia night to go to. Just a thought! 

Post # 80
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Busy bee

Have you thought about a match-maker? I used to have a friend who met her husband through one.

Post # 81
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

shirithecheery :  That’s a tough one. I actively dated, like forced myself to actively date, when I met now Darling Husband. I went on 1-2 dates every week. Most were just meeting up for drinks. I didn’t want to commit to a meal unless I actually liked the guy.

What’s your weekly schedule like? Do you participate in group activities? Do you put yourself out there? Or are you passively trying to meet ppl? I know this is an older thread, so I’m not sure if you’ve changed your “strategy.”

ETA: Ok, I reread the whole thread. I feel really A.D.D at work right now. So you moved, and still no luck? Are your photos good quality? I was watching Ellen once. She had someone on talking about what types of photos to include in your profile. Which ones react best with men. Maybe it’s that?

I remember my profile included a couple of pretty head shots and then also a full body shot. I’m a curvy hour glass shaped gal, so I didn’t want any guys to be surprised if they preferred a girl with no curves.

Post # 82
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I met my Darling Husband at a funeral that I almost didn’t attend.  It will happen. 

Post # 84
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

shirithecheery :  So nothing works.  Time for tough love – what about you sucks that needs an upgrade?  What negative, specific feedback have you gotten?  When you look in the mirror and think about your life, what don’t you like?  

Post # 87
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

shirithecheery :  I’m sorry to hear that.  I’m glad you think therapy is helping.  If it fails to be helpful, don’t be afraid to consult different therapists until you find the right match.  I hope you can practice more self love.  Take care. 

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