(Closed) Not doing things in order

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My husband and I bought a house before we got married.  A lot of people dont go ‘in order’ anymore.

Post # 4
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

HE is an ASSHOLE. Things happen, life happens. He needs to grow up and get a life (and suck a big one!!)

Post # 5
2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Ditto the two ladies above.

Post # 6
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Not that it’s an excuse (it’s definitely not), but is he somewhat older? We bought a house and moved in together before our wedding. Even though it’s a pretty common and practical thing for people from our generation I still dreaded telling my parents and everyone else their age…they definitely still sort of look down their nose at you even when they don’t outright condemn you for it.

Post # 7
2395 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

What a jerkface…You are right, it is none of his business and he’s a jerk for acting like that.  And I’m saying that as someone that did do everything in order…down to “waiting” before we were married.  People just need to realize that not everyone lives by the same rules so to speak.  None of my friends were like me and “did things out of order” and if I was a royal stick in the mud like that guy, I wouldn’t have any friends. lol  Just be happy you have your guy, your little cutie, and your house…I bet that grumpy guy’s ugly cats don’t even like him!

Post # 8
2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

What a butthole. Why is it bad to have a house together before you get married? Or why should anyone at any point in time try to make you feel bad for having a child? Stupid people.

Post # 9
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Of course! I’m still amazed at how many people frown upon living together before getting married. I mean, everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but it was a great choice for us to live together beforehand and we wouldn’t have it any other way!! It’s been a great experience!!

Post # 10
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

What a JERK!  I can’t even believe someone would feel its their place to comment and to blatantly judge.  You’re better than me, I would of followed up with a snotty comment- which doesn’t do anything.  I’ve never been one to think there is a right and wrong order of things.  I mean, my mom was a single mother, sooooo- that wasn’t ideal either, and she was an amazing role model.  It just happens that I’ve chosen the marriage before the kids and house- who cares?!?

Sorry you had that experience, don’t ever let that kind of ignorance get to ya!

Post # 12
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Um… we bought a house together before we’re married. whatevs. lol. 

Post # 13
1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ugh, ignore him!

No kids here, but my Fiance and I bought our house last year which was waaaay before our wedding. I think there is no “right” way or order to do things. Fiance and I bought a house that we love together and we are committed to each other.

For you, yes, you have a child, but you provide him with a safe loving environment so I think it doesn’t matter that you are not married.

Post # 14
1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, my Fiance and I have been living in OUR house for three years.

What a jerk.

Post # 15
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ohh yeah.

We’ve been living together for three years. And our son turns 3 this fall (about two months after we get married)

Whatever. I did it “the traditional way” the first time. And ended getting a divorce.


If they get real snarky I’ve been known to say “If I want your opinion I’ll ask for it, until that point go sit on a tack and wait.”

Seriously, his life must be pretty lame if he feels the need to pass judgement on yours..jerk.

Post # 16
1765 posts
Buzzing bee

“Our kids” have a wonderful 3 1/2 y.o. daughter and got married last year.  It didn’t matter to us about the order!  We adore “our little family” and we all laughed together at their wedding about their “doing things backwards”.  What matters is the LOVE!!! 

My folks didn’t like the Mr & me living together either, but it was the best thing we could have done for ourselves.  We’ve been married nearly 30 years!  😉

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