(Closed) Not Drama…just disappointed.

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

wow, first of all I can’t believe your SIL and brother dropped out over a dress! that is SO lame and rude!!! I wouldn’t dream of that in a million years! I have been a Bridesmaid or Best Man, didn’t like my dress, got over it in about two minutes and didn’t ever tell the bride, ever.  you do sound REALLY busy and stressed out – maybe an elopement is the way forward?  EVeryone that I have heard of who has eloped hasn’t had a moment’s regret. Or just have a really small event, with just you, Fiance and two friends or something.  Or a small Destination Wedding.  But seriously, it really sounds pretty awful right now – if you can get to Vegas or anywhere else, why not go for it?!!?

Post # 4
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am so sorry! That is terrible. It sounds like you need a new bridal party. I was forced to wear a bad (REALLY BAD) bridesmaid dress. I didn’t quit because of it. It is an honor to even be asked. This should be a fun time for the two of you. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now.Could you plan an elopement and then a marriage celebration later when things calm down? Hugs

Check out my awful dress in this post. It will make you laugh http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/most-hideous-bm-dress

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

i went through this at the beginning of my planning….and im still kinda dealing with it. i ended up have a bridesmaids meeting, and giving the girls a chance to tell me what they expected from me and what i expected of them. Most of my bridesmaids have never been in a wedding before so they had no idea!

Just tell them how you feel…and if it comes down to you not having as many Bridesmaid or Best Man then that is their loss…but this day is about you and your Fiance…thats it…no one else.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Miss Zinfandel: Im so sorry to hear all of this for you. I think your SIL is wrong for pulling your brother out of your wedding, Your brother should have still been involved.

HUGS

 

Post # 9
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217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

OMG I am so sorry. I don’t even know the right words. I am so so so so very sorry.  πŸ™

Post # 10
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395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow. All of this is awful. People are jealous!!! Sounds like you and your Fiance are doing well for yourselves and make choices that suit the TWO of you… 

Honestly, I realize that when it comes to weddings, pregnancies, etc. NO ONE is ever going to be as excited as you. Its not ever going to be as important to everyone else as it is to you. That’s just how it is. BUT….people who love you should be HAPPY for you and be loving and supportive and excited FOR you….

If jealously and anger over petty shit gets in the way of how family should feel during your time, GOOD RIDDANCE. Don’t spend a penny more on your wedding. Use all that money on the REAL fun and good time…the HONEYMOON!! πŸ™‚  

Good luck!! πŸ™‚ (HUGS!)

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Miss Zinfandel:

I hear you! It’s so tough to juggle all the life stuff AND deal with planning the wedding AND deal with the people you want .  We are having a destination wedding and the great thing about it is that the folks who are joining us are pumped. It has left some friends out because they can not make the trip but we are having a reception in the States to accommodate for them. Even then I can’t guarantee they will even come to that.  I have had no one offer to throw a wedding shower for me. My mother has stage 3 Alzheimer’s and sadly out of the wedding planning part. I know if she was still okay she’d get some things together for me. I had a ‘best friend’ who was all talk about doing a bachelorette party for me but she didn’t come through at all.. so I took matters into my own hands. Check it: My high school best friend is getting married two weeks before me so I had the idea to throw a joint Bachelorette party with her. I’m her Maid/Matron of Honor so I got her to give me names of people she wanted to invite and I included my friends. We just had the most kick butt bachelorette beach weekend. Memorable. Some girlfriends that I would have loved to have been there couldn’t make it but I was so so honored by the ones who did. Again,  I’m also not having a wedding shower (mainly because no one has offered.) I don’t feel bad about this at all and prefer this because I don’t have a wedding party and it is generally something they throw. I’d rather people spend the money joining us at our tropical wedding destination then buy that crate and barrel whatever or contribute to our honeymoon registry(which is what we did instead of a regular registry) My fiance and I already have a lot of the things you would get a wedding shower anyway. Your post just spoke to me because I was feeling disappointed in folks that we wanted to make a part of our big day but they kinda dropped off of the face of the earth since we got engaged. It feels bad but the beautiful thing is that some of my friendships have flourished during this time.  I love the fact, again that without attendants not a one of my fiends feels obligated to do anything for me or buy anything. Relish in those who care.. you will have someone who cares, sounds like your mom is in it to win it with you! πŸ™‚  When folks like to say, “You’re wedding is just not as important to them as it is to you” never makes you feel better(it may add some perspective)  so I’m hear to say that you may find some friendships that will flourish for you during your engagement.. Relish in those! 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

OMG you poor thing. Really your ex-MOH is a freaking bitch! How dare she. She’s trying to torpedo your wedding. Thats so disgusting. Personally, I’d elope to a fabulous location, keep it very real intimate and screw the rest of them.

Post # 14
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86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Uhhhg!!! Sounds like a nightmare.

 I really couldn’t agree with bklybridetobe: 

Personally, I’d elope to a fabulous location, keep it very real intimate and screw the rest of them.

You can always turn this around and make it all about YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND-to-Be!

If not this crap will pass and you will have an amazing day in 2012. Positive πŸ™‚ 

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