(Closed) Not ecstatic about my dress :(

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Bainise2013:  I happen to really love your dress!  I think it is unique, beautiful and it looks great on you!  But if you are not happy about it, you may want to consider changing it.  If you bought it, you obviously liked it at one time.  Maybe you should go back and try it on again, and remember why you loved it in the first place.  Anxiety can really mess with you.  It is deffinatly not too plain!  Plus, you can dress it up with accessories.  Before you decide for or against it, go put it on again!  Looking at pictures of my dress on me drove me crazy at first because it doesn’t look at all like it does in person.  Maybe that is contributing as well.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

You’re not getting married until October, right?

If you don’t love your dress, cancel your order and find something else!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BrandNewBride:  +1.

If you don’t love it then I would look for something else. Its a big part of your day and you’ll stress over it until then.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I just bought my dress and it ended up being completely different from what i had thought i wanted. i don’t think that you should discount this dress because it is not strapless but at the same time you need to feel confident that this dress is the one. i agree with the other Bees that you should go back and try it on again but for the record i think it looks incredible on you

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If you do not feel like a queen in your dress I think you should keep looking for your dream dress.  I just recently purchased my dress and it was completely different than what I thought that I wanted.  It is the most inportant piece of clothing you will ever wear, you should be confident and feel beautiful in it!  With that being said… I agree with the other Bees – I think the dress you purchased is beautiful and looks incredible on you!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

in my experience, if you dont hit at least several of those key components on your list, you might never be happy.

 

Ill share my experience…I went dress shoping last year, well in advance. I initially wanted something with lace, was thinking mermaid style, specifically told the salon owner who helped me no ball gowns. Well that night I ended up trying on about 12 dresses, and setled on a chiffon dropped waist gown, it was gorgeous. The ONLY lace dress they had in my price range was $200 more plus it felt really heavy on.

 

Fast forward to this year, we changed our date due to unforseen circumstances…and I started having dress regret, even despite tryin the dress on again. Finally I decided to visit a local salon to see what they had…the LAST dress I tried on was the one I bought. I geeked out when I saw it in the bag because it was huge poofy and you guessed it LACE. From the time I was a little girl i dreamed of a ball gown when i got married, but had talked myself out of it because of my age (i’m 38 lol).

I ended up with a droped waist ball gown, all lace with a touch of sparkle on the bodice. It shows my curves just enough without being too sexy (for me) and feels like a wedding gown. My other dress felt like a prom dress to me.

My advice before you take the plunge (sorry this is long lol) is do your research…..

make a list of things you really want and look for dress styles with those things. Do not go back to the store until you have that list and know that store has at least a few of the choices you want. Second consider the possibly of having what you want made if you can’t find it, or look for the second hand bridal shops in your area. There are a few where I live and many of them get designer sample gowns that are last years model, or even this years that they no longer carry at other high end salons for a fraction fo the price. I found mine at one and I got a $2500 gown for much much less ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

@Bainise2013:  You loved it for a reason. I think you’re just freaking out. Once you see the dress “in context” on your wedding day, you may love it again. I definitely don’t think it’s plain. It has great details.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it’s normal for a girl to experiance dress regret. There are so many lovely dresses out there, it’s hard not to get caught up in new ones!

But, if you have very strong feelings that you don’t like your dress, I feel that you may have purchased the wrong one.

How many did you try on? Was this the one you loved most, or did you just choose it because you were running out of time?

Have you looked around online? There are plenty of places you can buy dresses for just a couple hundred dollars.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

A dress doesn’t make a wonderful marriage ๐Ÿ™‚ You look lovely, and your fiancee is going to love seeing you walk down the aisle to him!  You don’t have to worry about the “right” anything except your future husband.  Everything else about the day will fade with time.  More choices don’t make us happy. They make choosing harder, and anxiety higher.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

A dress doesn’t make a wonderful marriage ๐Ÿ™‚ You look lovely, and your fiancee is going to love seeing you walk down the aisle to him!  You don’t have to worry about the “right” anything except your future husband.  Everything else about the day will fade with time.  More choices don’t make us happy. They make choosing harder, and anxiety higher.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Bainise2013:   you can have straps added to any strapless dress!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If the main problem you have with the dress is that it doesn’t have pickups or other decoration, that’s something you could talk to a seamstress about. It’d be easier to modify this dress to be “fancier” (pickups, bling, etc.) than to buy an entirely new dress.  

For example, my dress has a satin train with pickups. I think it would be easy for a seamstress to modify your train in this manner if something like this would this satisfy your pickup craving. ๐Ÿ™‚  (I’m not saying this is the only option – just that since it’s my dress it came to mind easily) 

 

However, if you truly don’t feel the love for this dress and you’re just getting it because EVERYONE ELSE liked it, then I say get another dress. If money is a concern, you could get a replica dress made by Jasmine’s Bridal Shop, Fabulous U, Dressilyme, etc. at a reasonable price if you really don’t like this one. You’re going to care more about your dress than ANYONE else will. You’ll have to see it in photos for the rest of your life. Get what YOU like. 

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