(Closed) Not engaged, but looking at venues

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Should we go visit more than one venue on our trip?
    Yes : (19 votes)
    58 %
    No : (14 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
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    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    What’s the rush? I wouldn’t look at venues until you’re engaged. I’ve heard of vendors being kind of upset when they realize someone’s not engaged. It’s understandable – they don’t know your relationship, so they could feel like you’re wasting their time. 

    Post # 4
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    4653 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I agree with AlwaysSunny, you can also be setting yourself up for disapointment if the engagements takes a long time or doesnt happen at all. 

    Post # 5
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    1975 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    same i wouldnt be looking at any venues until you are a bride

    Post # 7
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    196 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think you should look at a few places, especially if you won’t be coming back for a while. If you two are on the same page time-line wise, I don’t see it as an issue to start looking.

    Post # 8
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    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would be upset as a vendor if you showed up and we’re engaged. But I can see why you’re planning on visiting venues, so I would look at as many as possible while you’re there. You might consider buying a cheap ring to wear for the appointments so they give you their full attention.

    Post # 9
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Considering you’re out of the country, I’d go look at a few places unless you are 100% positive you both like the venue AND you can afford it. When you go look at it you can also get a feel for how quickly it books up and take that into consideration.

    Post # 10
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    4893 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    @asscherlover:  +1. Vendors WILL look at your hand as soon as you walk in the door. You can get a cheap fake from Walmart or something. They probably won’t pay too much attention to the ring itself, but they will notice if there is or isn’t one. 

    Post # 12
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    1030 posts
    Bumble bee

    I did it! Wear a fake e-ring and go look. There is nothing wrong with weighing in your options if you don’t think you’ll be going back any time soon!

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee

    I’d look at other places too in case the one doesn’t work out, at least you have back-ups and wouldn’t have to travel back to the US to look at them. There’s nothing wrong with looking at venues before you’re “officially” engaged with your future fiancé…it isn’t like you’re planning the wedding behind his back lol.

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