Post # 1
Here’s the story…. Me and my boyfriend have already decided we are getting married, picked out the ring, and I already have my dream venue in my head with a date picked.
Heres the probelm: He hasnt asked me yet, and although it is coming soon, I am still not officially engaged. If I had to guess its going to be in August. He said he has a perfect plan in his head and it involves a perfect date (for those of you who questions why he just wont ask me now!)
The venue we want is extremly popular and books fast and we want a summer wedding next year. As of now, they only have a few spots left, one of them being July 6th which is the date I wanted!
Is it okay (or am I crazy) to put a deposit to save our date??
btw.. the deposit is 1000$ and we have an appointment June 2nd to do a walk around..
Thanks for your input bees!!!
Post # 3
I would say go ahead and book it. I bought my dress 1 month before we were officially engaged because it needed to be ordered. Heck we already agreed on the wedding date prior…lol.
Post # 4
Is the deposit non-refundable?
Post # 5
We booked our hall before becoming officially engaged. I don’t think it’s a big deal, as long as you are both solid that it is happening and have the major details worked out. If you were going on your own after discussing the possibility of getting married soon, then I’d say it’s a bit early to get on it.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t do it. I believe you when he say he will propose but life happens so I wouldn’t take the chance. Plus, your tastes/budget may change closer to the time of engagement.
Post # 7
I think it’s a decision you and your boyfriend have to make together. If he’s okay with it too, then I don’t see any harm in it! I have a friend that did this and everything worked out fine 🙂 I just wouldnt book anything without him fully knowing about it!
Post # 8
What does your Boyfriend or Best Friend think? I think it’s a little weird to book a venue before you’re actually engaged, but if your Boyfriend or Best Friend is ok with it then I guess I don’t see a problem. However, if you pick a day and book a venue I would have a hard time not considering you engaged at that point – even though he didn’t officially ask you and you don’t have a ring.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t book it. Things happen, and he might not propose when you expect him to. Or you two might decide you want a longer/shorter engagement. And he needs to be completely on board with that decision.
Post # 11
@MrsElopement: I didn’t see this before I posted, but this is a good point. It’s hard to book a venue when you don’t know the size and budget of your wedding.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t do it. There’s a thread on here just in the last few days, by a girl whose Fiance bought the ring in November and let all this time pass, and when she finally had a total breakdown because she thought he’d changed his mind, he finally proposed – he said he hadn’t realized so much time had passed.
Wait until you have the ring on your finger.
Post # 13
We booked our venue before we were officially engaged. But we also set a budget and guest list before we did that. We had a specific date in mind and the venue is right in our budget and we didn’t want to lose it.
Post # 14
Thanks for all the responses ladies!
My bf is totally for it. When we talked about it, he asked “do you promise you want to marry me?” I said yes! Then he said we might be insane but Im all for it..
Like I said, he wants to do it on a specific date – which I think is in August. We are going away to my grandparents house in WV in the mountians. All of our friends and family will be there, and there are so many beautiful places to propose..
Our venue is amazing. I actaully had it picked out when I helped my best friend plan her wedding. June and Aug are already booked, 1 out of 4 weekends in July is booked so thats why I am contimplating this. I need July 6th lol
Also, I am a teacher so I NEED a summer wedding. 1. to give me time to finish up last min details without worrying about work and 2. so I dont have to use my sick days, I need to do my honeymoon during the summer..
Oh.. and we have a budget and an estimated guest list. I have taken my time on this and done my research..
Post # 15
Given the reasons you stated, I think it makes sense to go ahead and book it.
A friend of mine was in a similar situation. She went to a wedding with her then-BF at a very popular venue. This place was so popular that there was a 2 year waiting list for it. She had casually mentioned to her Boyfriend or Best Friend that she would want her wedding at that place (all of her friends knew it too). The next day he went to the venue and booked it – even though he had not proposed yet. They happen to have a cancellation about 18 months out so he lucked out. When he proposed he told her when they were getting married and she was so touched that he actually booked the place.
Post # 16
@rachaelp: Yes-Book it! we just did the same thing–we had a very specific date in mind (he already bought the ring as well-which might I add was 3x the cost of our deposit on a venue) and venues were booking up fast, the peace of mind to have the date and venue we wanted is worth it!
ETA: he also asked my dad’s permission when we were putting the deposit down…so what if things are a little backwards its not like once you are actually engaged your fiance can’t just pull out before the wedding either! You just have to trust your relationship and do what is best for you both!