Post # 62
Hey – New twist…
Can you sisters have a 2 for 1 wedding? Weddings cost a lot, and you two share the same famiiy that would have to travel to both? If you guys share a similar timeline.. and can get along.. (tricky part!).. then maybe that’s an option too? Perhaps have 2 ceremonies, different spots on same venue… and then move on over to a shared reception?
But… if not.. your sister does not get a month, or even a day, until they are engaged. Silly sister!
Post # 63
@Jenniphyr: Why on earth would they have ‘first dibs’ when they’re not engaged yet?? OP, book the date you want. Your sister is being unfair. Posts like this come up alot from the other end, where the not yet engaged person is all upset that someone else is daring to consider their date, and I tell them they’re being silly- which your sister is. But if it’s going to cause a ton of problems for you during your planning, you might need to pick the last weekend in September just to shut them up. Unless there’s some emotional reasoning behind your date, then I say do what you want.
Post # 64
I’m having a similar issue, although not from either my own or my fiance’s siblings…but from his cousin who is not officially engaged yet either. We have picked September 2012 for our wedding but are being told we can’t because his cousin is getting married…in OCTOBER. Apparently that gives him the right to own the months surrounding his wedding as well…which apparently he’s been planning for years (despite not being engaged yet). My Future Sister-In-Law has tried her best to convince us to change our date (for ridiculous reasons surrounding her clothing lol) but we’re going ahead with September. If anyone doesn’t like it they can lump it. It’s not like it’s a sibling and it’s not like it’s the same month. I think the issue is likely to turn into “but we have to get married first” but in that case then they will have to move theirs forward because we’re not changing ours.
I think you need to be firm here, don’t change your plans. Whether you pick October or November, you go ahead and pick it and stick to it. Send the invites out before your sister does. Remind your mother that your sister is not even engaged yet so you have every right to start planning your wedding now, and you don’t feel it’s fair you have to work around your sister who is not even engaged. Also remind both your sister and mother that if you get married in early October and she wants late October – early November that means it is around about a month space in between the weddings and that is perfectly reasonable.
Post # 65
Oh wow _ I just realized how old this post is! They probably have it figured out by now!