- 6 years ago
So my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and 1/2 years. For the first year he brought up marriage and everytime he talked about it he got all excited and was just all happy about it. He said he had the engagement all planned and all his friends knew about it. Well that never happened. We have had several discussions and everytime I ask him why he hasn’t proposed it’s a different reason. He gets all defensive and says I’m being demanding of it. Last night he said it’s because I have too much debt. Um the only debt I have is my school loans, my car loan, a $7000 credit card and a $2000 personal loan from the bank. I don’t have family that would pay for this because my parents abadnoned me. I have had to pay for EVERYTHING since I was 17. This is why I have debt. I only make $32k a year with a degree and live paycheck to paycheck but I’m good with my money and i’m paying off my debt as we speak. He says since I have debt, and he has even more debt that we won’t be able to afford to get married or even engaged! I’m so mad I don’t even know what to do. Please help. How do people get married when they don’t have families to pay? I don’t want a big wedding or a big honeymoon. I just want what he promised me in the beginning. Is that too much to ask?