Post # 1
Hi all. 🙂 I just needed some tips/input on a situation.
I’m having a 2 PM wedding on a Saturday, and was still a bit concerned about how much food to get. I told the caterer to make food for 130 people–I’ve estimated about 115 people coming. The problem is that my Korean mother thinks there won’t be enough food for everyone unless there are servers there who basically scoop the food on the person’s plate as they pass by. (I know if this is just a Korean thing but my mother always like to make sure there is more than enough and then some leftovers while we’re at it).
The thing is my Maid/Matron of Honor (who is married and is very much a wedding coordinator/planner) and my step-mother believes there will be enough food, as do I.
The thing is, because I’m having a 2 PM wedding, I’m assuming that people would eat before they come to the wedding because they may not eat at the reception until 3:00 – 3:30 PM. Is it wrong for me to assume that? Also, some people may not eat and only eat cake. But then again, there may be some people who come at the last minute who never RSVP’d, and yet I’ve had some people who did RSVP who now say they can’t make it.
I also didn’t specify on my invitation that there would be food, but instead just simply said “reception to follow.” (Maybe that was my bad?) I’ve gone to a few weddings and all this has varied. I went to a wedding where there was no food, one with just finger food, and one with just a dessert bar. Should I just not worry about it anymore? lol I still have some wiggle room with the caterer since they’re good friends with my mom, but I need some opinions. 🙂
Please and thank you!
Post # 3
If I were going to a 2pm wedding, I would definitely eat beforehand, because that’s a start time that’s too late for lunch and too early for dinner. Also, something about the idea of servers acting as “consumption police” for the guests rubs me the wrong way, I’m not sure I can articulate why.
Post # 4
i think it will be enough. I wouldnt worry especially if your Maid/Matron of Honor is a planner and also agrees, she should know.
Post # 5
I think you will be fine. I don’t think you should specify on the invitation unless you were NOT having food. if it says reception I would just assume there was food. I do agree that people might not be as hungry, but most people will eat something even if its small. I would probably eat before the wedding, but i’m always hungry and would find room haha
Post # 6
@geekspice – I know. :/ That’s why I didn’t want to have the servers in the first place, lol. I still think that people may ask for more than what is put on their plate and what–the servers are gonna say, “No!” lol Just weird.
Thanks for the input all. This really helps me out. 🙂
Post # 7
So I do think there should be people to help serve not so much to monitor the food. I’d get food for as many as you invited. I’ve never been to a wedding where people don’t expect to be fed. If I were going to a wedding at 2 I probably wouldn’t eat before hand. Between getting dressed, hair, makeup & driving I wouldn’t really have time since I don’t usually eat lunch super early.
Post # 7
I’d probably have breakfast but I would expect a full meal after the ceremony. No one is going to have time to eat lunch before the ceremony between getting ready and traveling. So what is your plan for food? That wasn’t clear in the OP.