Post # 1
OK so our wedding is paid for in full and we’re 15 days away. Our wedding has basically been a complete DIY wedding and we have my family and my Future Father-In-Law helping us out where they can. Our wedding cost is 4,500 and includes everything. We didn’t feel the need to have a big over the top wedding and we’re paying for the majority ourselves.
Last night Fiance and I were looking at our bank account and due to some unexpected things like my grandpa getting very sick and us having to go visit, we had to spend other money we had budgeted for bills and fixing my car that broke down on us a while back. I don’t know how to fix it b/c the mechanic has ordered parts and the check has been deposited and we still have some bills to pay. I would see if we could cancel the mariachi but being so close to the wedding day I don’t think we would get anything back.
It’s so frustrating I don’t know how we’re going to fix it and I still have several decorations to finish for the wedding. I should be happy and last night I was so happy that we are so close to our day and then we looked at the account and it put a damper on my mood. I feel like crying b/c things were going great and we had enough money for everything and then my grandpa got sick. He’s out of the hospital now and doing better which is what matters but I can’t help from feeling stressed about money. Fiance is considering asking his dad for a small loan to help us get by the next few weeks but he hasn’t decided on if he will.
OK that’s enough of my rant. Things will improve hopefully and I will call the mariachi and see if we can possibly cancel and get some money back or if we can work something out.
Post # 3
Aw, I hope everything works out for you. Nothing much to say except that the unexpected is always unexpected!
If cancelling the mariachi doesn’t work out, could you do something to earn a little extra cash temporarily? Sell some things on craigslist or babysit or something like that? I don’t know how much money you need, but every little bit helps alleviate stress, right?
Post # 4
🙁 I’m so sorry! Financial strains are the worst!!
If you can’t get a small loan from your Father-In-Law, perhaps you could sell a few things on craigslist or do some spare jobs ? ( mowing, dog walking, cleaning, etc) I’m not exactly sure how much your in need of so some of my ideas might not work out, but I hope you get what you need!
Post # 5
Ask your mechanic if you can work something out to pay over the next couple of months – if you explain that you have the wedding on top of sick relatives on top of your car breaking, the shop might be willing to work with you.
Post # 6
Thanks ladies and we’re just needing a couple hundred to keep us out of the red.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Sell some stuff? Sell services (I moonlight as a photographer)? Fill out some online surveys that pay $$$? Eat ramen and drink tap water for the next few weeks? Bike to work?
Post # 8
I’m so sorry. I would suggest going home, looking through your stuff you don’t need at home, do you have any DVDs, cds, books you don’t need/want? Post em on craigslist or go to a used cd/book store. Have a garage sale (yes this is a lot of work right before your wedding, but it doesn’t hurt.)
It’s a perfect time before you two get married to purge unneeded or clutter items, knick knacks etc that you don’t need or want. Besides that, can you guys pick up a part time job?
Post # 9
I am so sorry, I know how stressful that feels. I strongly suggest you reach out to a couple of your vendors and ask if you can set up a payment schedule. I don’t think they need to know all the details of your personal life– just tell them that due to a family illness, you’re looking for some ways to reduce your short-term expenses.
I think the sooner you ask your vendors (or ask your Father-In-Law for a loan), the sooner you’ll feel better. I think you will be surprised to see what good hearts people have, and how willing they are to help.
If the venodrs do agree to a payment plan, make sure you keep up your end of the bargain and follow up with positive reviews on wedding sites. Good luck, and keep your head up!
Post # 10
I know a lot of people will be against this but what about using your credit card and just paying it off with wedding money. It’s not technically going in debt for the wedding if you have a way to may it off very shortly. If you feel comfortable with your inlaws you could borrow the money and pay them back right away as well.
Post # 11
Talk to your vendors and see if they will take money after the wedding. At my first wedding, we had a financial emergency right before the wedding and our videographer let us pay him the money we were supposed to give him that day a week or two late. He just said he would hold onto the tape until we could pay as the collateral…
If you have them by you – Clothes Mentor and Plato’s Closet will take clothing you don’t wear any more and pay you up front. You will only get a few dollars per piece, but I’ve dropped off clothes before and gotten $75. Clothes Mentor takes jewelry too if you have old costume stuff you don’t want any longer. And they take purses, especially designer purses.
Post # 12
http://boards.weddingbee.com/profile/roxy821- we don’t own any credit cards but I would definitely look into something like that if we did.
Thanks bees I think we will be ok now. I called some places and got things moved for payments to be made on different days. We should be good to go until payday next Thursday. Thanks for all of y’alls suggestions and opinions. I love that I can come here and vent and get support and ideas, y’all are amazing!
Post # 13
I’m glad you worked it out! A lot of times places ARE helpful to move payments and the such if you are pretty good at paying usually….unexpected expenses (like your FI’s grandfather getting sick) is something that can really throw stuff off, and most places would rather you pay when you can than screw up your credit….it never hurts to ask!
I hope you have a great wedding!