Well MollyMcbutter and other brides… evidently no one has spread the word — even 4 years later… and plus we live in a high-tech information age.
We had a divorce 15 years ago in our family. Each divorced parent retained a wonderful relationship with our lovely, talented, “only-daughter”…. although she has always had a special, loving tie with her father, that has seemed to “over-ride” her love for me.
I don’t know how it happens…. but, our wonderful “only-son” has had a stronger tie to me through the years, than to his father.
I just got my first look at the extensive electronic wedding photo collection from our daughter’s ceremony a few weeks ago. It’s been 5 hours since I first viewed the slide show — and I can not stop crying.
Evidently, I’m good enough to ask for money for college, living expenses, clothing, airfares, and hair upkeep over many years,… I am good enough to ask for lavish trips, or significant down-payment funds for her first home…Good enough to sit as attentive audience for her numerous sporting events, school activities, music recitals, and dog-sitting…But, I am not good enough to be photographed in any reasonable proportion of the life-stories told in the wedding portraits.
There are literally 1.5 photos of me with my daughter prior to the wedding ceremony. There must be 20 of each of the other parents…. meaning at least 40 were taken and not used of the other parents of the bride or groom.
I do think it is possible that my daughter asked the photographer to be sure to capture some good pics of her w/ her father — with the whole father giving the daughter away element. Plus, she is very close to her dad. However, today’s wedding photography is intended to Tell a Story. While our photographer was exceptional… I do believe it was a horrific oversight that he, nor his assistant took any photos of me with the bride prior to or during the ceremony.
I will not be able to bear looking at their slide show even one more time… while a loving story is told about the parents of the groom, and the father of the bride. How could this excellent photographer let this happen…? My daughter and I have a wonderful, ongoing, positive, and loving relationship.
Heart Broken and Now Frozen in Time This Way….Within Wedding Photos Sent All Over the United States….!
Yes… we can take a separate round of photos at some other point in time… there were a couple of other key family members on “our side”… who were virtually shut out of the pictures too… BUT…nothing can make up for this. I wish photographers would be particularly sensitive to issues like this, when there has been a divorce in the family. BTW… his current wife is in some key photos with Mother-In-Law, and several others through out the album. I wonder if anyone even told this photographer that there WAS a divorce in this family. That’s how skewed our photo album is. My parents comprise the bride’s only surviving grandparents — and they are in none of the wedding photos at all. The bride’s only sibling, … her brother is represented in about 1.5 photos — He loves her dearly, and treats her very well — altho he does live several states way… which actually should have been a trigger for the photographer to remember to photograph him.
Heart Broken Mother of the Bride – Western USA