(Closed) Not enough people on my side of the party….

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Honey bee

I wouldn’t do this- how would you feel if someone asked you to be in their wedding because they “needed” more bodies?

You should have your closest friends/family up there to support you, not random acquaintances to fill a quota.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

ucsadie:  Honestly, I would just leave the number uneven. During the recessional, just have two GMs escort 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man. You’ll have the Maid/Matron of Honor walk with the Best Man, and then each Bridesmaid or Best Man will have 2 GMs to escort her.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

We are having a small wedding party to go along with our small wedding.

4 for me

4 for him

1 flower girl

1 ring bearer

 

I chose quality over quantity ☺

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

ucsadie:  I’d rather have just my besties and close folks up there than have “filler” bridal party up there.

You could think outside the box and have Jr. Bridesmaids if there are young family members you are close with too but only if you are close to them.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Sides don’t need to be even.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m having 2. My fiancé is having 4. I’d rather have uneven than people I really don’t know well or care about as much. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Do you have any really close male friends that wouldn’t mind being by your side? It may not be traditional, but at least they would be special people to you. 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

A girl asked me to be in her wedding maybe 8 months after I met her. It wasn’t weird. It was sweet of her and definitely a bonding time for us. 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee

ucsadie:  Do you have any guy friends or family members that you’re super close with? Doesn’t have to just be girls. 

Also, 2 years is plenty of time to know if a friendship will last the ages. Go for it. I would be thrilled, I only knew someone 2 years and I’m already THAT important to them?! HECK YES!!!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

ucsadie:  why do you “need” to get to 7? I don’t think the length of time that you have known some one is an indicator of whether or not you should ask them to be in your Bridal Party. Since you’re questioning it you obviously don’t feel close enough to them to ask them to spend hundreds of dollars on your day so, no, you probably shouldn’t ask them. You should ask the people in your life who you can’t imagine taking this big step without their support. That is the only indicator of whether or not they “should” be bridesmaids. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I have three, and my fiance has four groomsmen.  I really don’t want to add another one, so I’m not.  The bridesmaids I have now are my sister and two best friends.  To pick one more person would just throw things off.  3 people who are super close to me and one that’s only kind of close to me?  I think she would feel left out.  

It’s maybe not as much of a problem if you have two who are kind of on the same level of closeness.  

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

ucsadie:  If you’re close to a person, it doesn’t matter how long you’ve known them. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

ucsadie:  no one “needs” to get to a certain amount. I wouldn’t pick people that were “aquaintences” to be in my wedding party. Not only is that going to be weird for you, but you would be putting the people you ask in a weird situation as well because they won’t want to say no to you (or they might) but they will probably be wondering why you asked them and things will be WEIRD. Just have more than one groomsman escort each bridesmaid. No big deal.

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