- 2 years ago
Oops, I’m a long-time lurker but a new poster here and I accidentally closed my post, so I’m reposting. The original is here, but I’ll copy & paste the text: https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/not-enough-people-on-one-side-of-the-wedding/
People pretty much agreed it isn’t a big deal as long as everyone is mixed up, but I wanted to see if there are any additional opinions
My SO and I were discussing wedding attendance and he brought up that he really doesn’t think a lot of people would come to see him get married. He is from another country, has a tiny family, is a bit of an introvert, and has only been in my country (USA) for about a year and a half (2.5 if you count him studying abroad here several years ago.) That all goes to say, he has his mom and maybe his dad (overseas,) a small group of friends in town, a few friends on the other side of the country, and. if he’s lucky, his best friend (overseas.) If he’s super lucky, maybe a couple of friends from overseas can swing the trip.
As for my side, long story short, while I also don’t have a huge number of friends and my closest friends are also 6 to 12-hour plane rides away, a lot of family and family friends will be getting invites.
His worry is that there will be 100 people there for me and like two there for him, and people on my side will think poorly of him. He’s got anxiety and mild depression, and I think he is just unable to fathom people taking time off of their busy lives to come to his wedding. He’s very likable, and I can’t imagine fewer than 8-10 coming for him, and it would probably be many more.
My mom believes that, if we just have everyone all mixed up, people won’t even notice [Edit: and I agree]. Many of the people there on my side won’t know each other anyway.
How much of a worry should this be? I’m also open to tips. My only real idea (aside form not worrying about it) is to be as conservative as possible on my invite list and more free on his.”