(Closed) Not enough structure to the wedding day? Will it be boring? Help!

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@subjunctivitis:  your ceremony timings are very similar to mine! we are having ceremony at 4pm,  cocktails & nibbles at 4.30pm, dinner at 6.30pm. we are going to have dinner, cake etc then ipod music. no dj. what if you had welcome drinks the day before the wedding at the house you are renting? is there anywhere nearby you could arrange an optional activity the next day as well as or instead of brunch? wine tour etc?  however brunch would be enough by itself.  we wont be doing speeches, first dances etc either.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

double post

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@subjunctivitis:  I just wrote a whole reply and pressed send and my internet went down and lost it grr.  6.30am is very early, but I presume it must go longer that that, so can you find out when it goes to and organise something later in the morning to view it?  I am still planning my reception, it is a 3 course dinner, then we will have cake, and then the restauarnt stops serving around 11pm so people can go to a bar nearby if they want to keep going as we are in a resort.  Some of my family dont drink or dance and some do.  I think a lot of people amuse themselves anyway and mingle after a few drinks. It is a small wedding around 40 people and most people wont want to party all night.  We are organising a day trip the next day and people have to be ready to leave at 8.30am so that is also a bit early if people have had a late night. Will you clear some tables to guests can dance or have another room?  I am still working on that one as havent confirmed which resturant we will use as we have quite a few to choose from.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

double post again…

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Just a random idea, what if you get a microphone and leave it for people to use how they wish? People can start doing speeches if they want, or maybe hook it up to a karaoke machine and do that. Or really just sing along to the ipod music. That way people can entertain themselves. You can also maybe start a few games going. Nothing complicated, just like charades or pictionary with maybe grooms vs. brides side lol People complain about games, but once they get going they almost always have fun. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Kat_Kit2000:  I also looked into photo booths (but couldnt source any in my location in thailand) , which could be a fun thing, so if they were available it would provide lots of entertainment for the guests.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

we are doing the same thing!!!! except our wedding is super small. 12 including us.

we rented a place for a week in ireland. and i think the fact that its in a place we have never been- it will be super fun. the ceremony is at 3. since its a civil- it will take 15 minutes tops haha. then we are having cocktails, taking pictures and going to dinner. then maybe pubs? (i hope)

i think just being in a new place and having your family there with you will be entertaining enough. im sure there will be tons to talk about. and in my opinion a dj is just as good as bringing your own speakers and music- or internet music. just as fun!!!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Kat_Kit2000:  thats a really good idea for her!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We are having our wedding in the morning/early afternoon and we aren’t doing any of the traditional wedding things. We are having the ceremony at 10:30 and then around 11 everyone will be escorted to the downstairs for some cocktails and appetizers and then come back up after like 30 min for the main food(which is mostly just brunch stuff, nothing very heavy for the time of day) and we will just be mingling and talking. We are also having a small wedding most likely only going to be about 40 people. I think the only traditional thing is we will most likely do the bouquet/garter toss. And we will not be having a dj or a dance floor of any kind just because we don’t like to go out dancing normally so why would we want to do it on our wedding day? Our friends are also not the dancing type.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

@traveller:  A word on that: I just went to a sweet 16 on Friday. They had a “photobooth” only it was really people taking pictures in front of a green screen. There were “photographers” taking the pictures but they were really shitty. My parents on the other hand went to a wedding where there was an actual booth where you go in and press all the buttons and take the pictures yourselves with funny images and then the machine spits out those 4 pictures in a row. That was a good idea because a) it’s a machine so it must be cheaper, b) the guests are doing all the work, c) if the pics don’t come out well it’s no ones fault and you can do it again lol (whereas the photographers at the sweet 16 get snarky and have an attitude if you ask them anything)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Kat_Kit2000:  thanks, thats horribleto hear that those photographers were rude like that, someone should complain really.  I have only heard of the unmanned photobooths, but I could only find one in Phuket but you can only hire it if you are taking their full wedding photographer which I am not.

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d put someone–a guest or hostess–in charge of directing activities until the photos are done. Just a person to spur some activity and keep boredom down or direct the waiting guests in something to do until you arrive. Just one or two people who know how to “get the party started.” Maybe put them in charge of getting guest photos in your absence.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

To me two hours for cocktail hour is pretty lengthy unless you have something going on to entertain folks. Ours is outdoors and we will have a few lawn games but our cocktail hour is an hour. 

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