(Closed) Not even a year out and the wedding has been postponed indefinitely.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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46603 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

So, you sit down as a couple  and figure out a plan.

Do you need to sell the house to reduce your monthly financial commitments?

Do a budget on a spreadsheet. List income and  non- negotiable expenses.

Is there any way to increase your income- part-time or second jobs? doing day care?

Look at the expenses that are optional, the ones where you do have some control. What can be reduced, changed, eliminated?

You can be married and not incur huge expenses. There are many great examples here on WeddingBee of intimate family weddings that are held in someone’s home or yard.

Post # 4
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That’s too bad 🙁

You said you were planning “a crazy wedding” that you couldn’t afford though…could you maybe scale it down a bit and still go ahead with it? 

Post # 5
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

That really sucks! I am sorry you are dealing with this right now – even if you get over it in an hour and find a different solution, it’s hard to bring yourself back to earth when you get excited about something.

I am sure you guys will work it out – either wait for the big “expensive” (I use that as a relative term – if you can’t afford it now, it’s expensive) wedding, or plan an intimate, low cost option so you can get married sooner!

I can say, as someone with an “average” wedding budget planning a traditional and fairly “average” wedding, sometimes I get jealous of the people planning a backyard or park affair that is low-key, intimate and to me, incredibly romantic.

But as PP said, the most important thing is to communicate as a couple and figure out what is realistic to both of you. Good luck!

Post # 6
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2701 posts
Sugar bee

@julies1949: she suggested all the things I was going to say

Other than her advice, I wish you luck and hope you can come to a compromise.

Post # 7
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

 

How about planning a less expensive wedding? If you do your research, you will still have a beautiful wedding with a low budget. 

I got engaged April 24th. Our wedding is November 27th. Very short time to plan, but so far so good and we are on budget! 🙂 You just have to take some time to do some more planning. Make sacrifices. If you are not willing to make sacrifices, then wait to have the wedding when you can afford it. At least its not be postponed due to relationship issues!

Post # 8
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3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Not for nothing, but since you already have a little baby, could you maybe get married in a civil ceremony just to make it legal (FI and I are all about the sharing insurance thing, etc.) and then after your housing situation dies down and you are in a better financial place w/o all the stress, have a vow renewal? That way you can get the benefits of marriage without the money strain and by combining resources, it might help you out faster. Just a thought.

I do feel for you though, I can’t imagine how dissapointed you must be right now.

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