(Closed) Not even engaged and dreading the planning

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 2
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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stoandgy:  Depends on your location, number of guests, and what your “wants” are but it is definitely doable.

That’s a good sized budget for a more casual affair, so as long as you can stick to it (and don’t get swayed by all the pretty things, like I did) you should be fine.

Post # 3
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I am having a 60 people wedding and reception 45 minutes away from Chicago and we will close under 10k. It is realistic ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
7 posts
  • Wedding: April 2017

Sweetness, first up CONGRATS on almost being engaged! Thats super exciting.

As for the budget, it really depends on how many people are coming. My wedding budget is $8000 and I have 32 guests (40 including wedding party) I’m doing a heap of DIY. It’s really what you & yur fince want. Compromise where you can, for example dont have fresh flowers everywhere, fresh flowers are super duper expensive, maybe trade flowers for other decorations that won’t eat your budget. Find friends that can help! Don’t buy a massively expensive wedding dress (mine only cost $300 and its stunning!) 

Always ask for help! We’re all here for support and ideas.  Don’t be shy!! 

Post # 5
6876 posts
Busy Beekeeper

It’s definitely dependent on a lot (location is a huge factor), but you spend what you want to spend.  We had 5000 as our goal and upped it some in order to pay for some peoples’ cabin rentals as well, because we felt bad about how much it cost our guests to come out to us.  There are so many corners you can cut without really losing out – as long as the guests are well fed and watered, they tend to be pretty happy with anything.  Mine was just a casual wedding, a lot like a family/friend picnic.  We self-catered, bought centerpiece flowers from the grocery store and put them together ourselves, did strawberry shortcakes instead of a fancy wedding cake, inexpensive dress, groom’s clothes that can be worn to work or other events, used a computer and rented speakers instead of hiring a dj.  All sorts of simple cuts that did not take away from how nice our wedding or reception were.  I only got compliments. 

Since you’re not even engaged, you can take your time.  Look around, get ideas for what you want.  I think there’s a budget bride website somewhere – probably that exact name which will have plenty of ideas.  Remember, you don’t have to go nuts to have a good time!

Post # 6
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Harn Homestead

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stoandgy:  My budget is 15k, we are having the wedding in OKC and anticipate 150 guest. We are lucky to have connections in the industry and that I started planing and booking very early to get the best deals. My open bar & DJ & ALL LINEN for 5.5 hours was only $1600 because i booked almost a year out.

Post # 7
1705 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We pulled off a nice wedding for 60 people for $5k, had nice centerpieces DIY style, great photographer, whole family came. You can certainly have a fantastic wedding for $15K easy! 

Post # 8
5867 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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stoandgy:  Depends on your location, numbers, and many other factors.  But for most people that is a solid budget and should be more than fine!

Post # 9
1203 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

15k is totally doable without connections or discounts. To be safe, I would start with a 10k budget in mind to allow for unexpected expenses. I do think it’s unrealistic to expect free or discounted services, though… Especially since your wedding will likely occur on a day that other weddings and potential income for that person could occur on.

Post # 10
198 posts
Blushing bee

First of, CONGRATULATIONS and WELCOME!!!!!! and yay for your FIRST post!

I remember my first post last month ๐Ÿ™‚ I think it was about having a simple dress or something and the bees here were SOOOO helpful and I find that the people in this website is a lot nicer (and more open) compared to other websites, I think it is mainly the diversity of people (all economical levels, different races, etc). 


Anway back to your original thread!

Your budget, $15k-$18k is totally doable! Like the other PPs, it depends on how many attendees, venue location, what type of foods/entertainment etc you need. My budget is $30,000 and already people are like that’s too overboard , or why you chose that place it’s not good or if I went with my original place, a lot of people were like, “that place is too crowded.” ETC. 

When planning you begin to realize the people’s comments towards your wedding can vary and if they are tryin to be helpful, they should really put it in a nicer tone instead of straight up saying, that place is this and that, meaning they don’t approve your opinions and really respect your likes.

Don’t worry about those people, even if the are immediate family. It’s unfortunate but there will be so many opinions it’s nuts. When others get married I just offer my congratulations and ask if they need any help and ask what’s their vision instead of springing ideas to them ๐Ÿ˜› haha. Anyway, good luck!!!

Post # 11
622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Depends on number of guests, but totally doable! Mine was just under $10K for 85 people. Food and open bar was most of that cost, but I cut costs on just about everything else by ordering my flowers bulk from Sam’s Club and making the arrangements myself, making the table numbers, hiring a photog and DJ who are just starting out (both turned out to be AWESOME! I got lucky!), and doing all the decor myself by keeping it simple but classy. I’ll be honest and say that it took a lot more planning/organization/shopping around/help from friends and family than if I had a more expensive wedding where I could just hire people to do everything. I made sure to give myself plenty of time to do everything and it worked out really well and we save a boatload of money. I would do it all over again the same way. Happy planning!

Post # 12
9575 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

It depends on your expectations and priorities. You cant host a 3 course sit down meal with open top shelf bar for 200 people at a country club. You can do the above for 50 people (but probably still not at the fancy country club). Or you can host a cheaper meal and bar (beer and wine) for 100ish. If youre creative and willing to think outside the box you can totally do it. Just dont sacrifice the basics of guests comfort. And also prioitize your spending. The majority of your money will be spent on the reception food and drink, so dont overspend early on on attire and florals and other fancies. Price your food/booze/venue out first and then work from there.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by  MrsBuesleBee.
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Post # 13
1355 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2027

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stoandgy:  my wedding for 60 people will come in so far under $15000 it’s not even funny. It depends on your location, wants/needs and ability to not fall for the “you HAVE to do this” posts on here and similar sites.

Post # 14
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Totally doable. But totally stressful (to me). I’m currently working on finding a venue + food only for 90 people for around 5k and you wouldn’t believe how difficult that is, but it is doable in several venues in my town. I think the region of the country you are in plays a huge part. Good luck!

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Post # 15
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Yeah that’s definitely doable!

Our budget is around $8000-$10,000 for approximately 125 guests. We originally were going to do under $5000 for 75 guests, but my Future Mother-In-Law is pitching in because she’s insisting on certain things for our wedding (not things we object to exactly, just things that are outside of our desired budget) and including certain people (not people we object we don’t want, but people we considered unneccessary when considering budget). We’re getting a great deal on catering (only paying for the actual cost of the food) because my FI’s aunt is a caterer, and a great deal on photography through my FI’s good friend (really only paying for his second shooter, plus we’re planning on a generous tip after). We’re also planning to DIY most of our decorations. We’re also going to do a beer and wine open bar (we think that’s plenty, liquor is totally unneccessary for us in my opinion).

We live in a city, although not as big as one like NYC or Boston or Chicago.

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