(Closed) Not everyone’s relationship is the same so please don’t criticize

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Why on earth would someone say something like that? That’s very judgemental. What do you tell them?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

You make out in public in highschool or at drunken frat parties. You sound much more mature than your firends, so hold your head high dear!

 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You need to hang out with a new group then lol! Come hangout with my SO and I! We never show public affection. When we are in public we act more like friends then we do a couple. I get grossed out by public affection.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Psh, people are so insane. You do not have to makeout in public to prove that you are dating/engaged/married. So irritating. I think we all know “that couple” that insists they are perfect and everyone else is clearly doing it wrong. Ignore them, THEY are wrong…and I tend to believe are over-compensating for something. But you know, wouldn’t want to be hypocritical. 😉

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I do show affection towards my husband in public but it’s pretty tame. A peck on the lipe, a hug, hand holding and the raciest I get is I sometimes pinch his butt in Walmart,

I will admit that seeimg  a couple cling to or climb over eachother is a little to much for me.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

My Fiance is the same.  He is not affectionate in front of others.  If I initiate a kiss, he’ll kiss back, but not open-mouthed (not that I’d want that in front of people).  He never walks up to me and starts kissing/groping me.  I’m okay with that, though.  I love him.  He loves me, and I know it.  However, certain people comment on it like they think my Fiance doesn’t love me, or something.  FI’s cousin is one of those people.  She thinks that because my Fiance isn’t always all over me, that something must be wrong with our relationship.  She text me on my birthday and asked, “Is (FI) getting you anything?  He better be or I’ll kick his butt!”  I just thought to myself, why wouldn’t he be getting me a gift for my birthday?  He’s my fiance!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Who actually makes out in public? I mean I haven’t done that since I was in my teens. I guess if your all punk rock or if your party alot, but I think everyone else saves that sort of thing for when your alone with your SO/FI.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I can relate! My SO is kind of shy/quiet. I’m more outgoing,talkative and bubbly…sometimes loud lol. So I could see how some people would think i’d have some crazy affection guy running around. He’s not huge on PDA. But he’s not afraid to show it, and I am also the one to usually initiate, but nothing really too ‘mushy’ in public.. a quick kiss or hug. I have gotten questions/comments from other people in relationships, and I just tell it like it is.. I love the way SO is. I’m happy with how we are. I personally (and many may disagree..) would not want someone constantly hanging all over me and breathing down my neck 24/7.. and I sometimes think that people who are like that, are trying too hard or something?  Gimme’ my space! lol But every relationship is different and if it works for them, kudos! We cuddle at home all the time and show affection..  It’s us, and that’s how I like it. 🙂

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I can’t stand PDA, so you’re not alone.

 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

Ugh, I hate PDA; I don’t think ‘how sweet’ I think ‘yuk, get a room!’. The most we ever do in public is hold hands, or have a quick peck on the check/lips. I like my personal space, and couldn’t be dealing with arm linking/etc.

On a similar note, 2 of my friends recently made some snide/snarky remarks over the fact that my OH and I have just ordered a 6′ wide bed. We both like our own space at night, and have different sleep patterns, so can’t wait for the extra space (my current bed is 4’6″). My friends both made comments along the lines of ‘Oh, you don’t like sharing a small bed? How strange! I love snuggling up with my OH. I didn’t use to, but he’s just right for me, you know?’ Now, maybe I’m overeacting, but the insinuation there is that if my OH was ‘right’ for me, I’d suddenly be cool with be squashed, hot and uncomfortable in bed. Umm, first, no; I need space when I sleep. Second, these girls have been with their partners for 9 MONTHS and 3 WEEKS respectively. Coime back in a couple of years love and tell me you still like a disturbed and uncomfortable night’s sleep… lol

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree. I’ve been around some pretty immature couples who, when provoked, will literally stomp the ground and say that their relationship is better. (yeah, we’re not friends with them anymore). I wonder if it comes from a sense of insecurity on their part, needing to prove that they’re in a super relationship, or maybe it’s just a very young relationship.

Either way it’s their relationship, and if they want to PDA it up, whatever.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@barbie86: hello, passive aggressive friends! geesh. We have a queen, but we want a california king. I like to cuddle with him, but I can’t fall asleep like that.

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